Dear people,
With the state of the world at the moment, a lot of people are
struggling with feelings of powerlessness, anxiety and anger. So I felt
it's time to write a post with an exercise on how to empower yourself in
situations like these. It's so important to not stay stuck in the
mindset that nothing you do matters, because that will lead to worse
outcomes for everybody. If you notice you keep worrying, you can also
read the worst case scenarios blog post to help you through those feelings.
I also did a True Unity Video for those of you who want to use True Unity on Powerlessness. Simply join in with the exercise to get yourself back into a centered and empowered place.
Why feeling powerless is a hard feeling to escape
I'm sure we've all seen our friends and family in a powerless space. They are unable to see any solutions, are dejected and don't seem to have the power, energy or decisiveness to make a change. It doesn't matter how often we give advice, how we reach out and try to help them, they won't transform until they process that feeling of powerlessness. As such, it's no surprise that when we are in that same space, we are also hard to help.
If you want to move forward, it's important to recognize that you are keeping yourself in a powerless space. Especially when saying things like: "There is nothing I can do", or "Nothing will help". Powerlessness is a trap state, where the state itself will reinforce the feeling, so you need to make a conscious effort to move out of it. Once you take the time and space to remember that you are not powerless, you can move forward.
Moving out of powerlessness
There are many ways to move out of powerlessness. We can ask for help, surrender to our higher power or find our own inner power. So you can read the blog post or do the True Unity exercise for the first two methods, but I will expand here about the last one.
Finding your inner power can be extremely hard when you are in a powerless place, because you need to either remind yourself of it or reconnect with it. A great way to do that is to help others, because it will remind you of your power. You can also trick yourself by giving yourself advice as your own best friend. It will help open up ideas and advice, even if you know you are just pretending. That's how powerful trying to help others truly is.
Exercise for finding your own inner power
- Find a place where you can sit still for around 5-10 minutes
- Close your eyes
- Breath in and out
- Visualize your own center of power as a flame
- Allow Heaven/God/The Universe to fan the flames until you see your own Inner Power as a big roaring fire
- Allow that fire to warm you and help you in your life
- Visualize three embers of that fire - they are full of energy but not hot
- Place one ember on your heart - for connection of your emotions to your power
- Place one ember on your third eye - for connection of your intuition to your power
- Place on ember on your head - for connection of your mind to your power
- Allow yourself to see the thread of fire between your inner power and those embers
- Breathe in and out and establish healthy connections to your power
- Whenever you feel ready - open your eyes
Want to comment on this article or talk to me about it? You can email me, post a
message on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram. And if you want to work with me on connecting to your Inner Power or moving past Powerlessness, send me a message to schedule your free intake.
We all need the Sacred Masculine in our lives. For a balanced life both the Masculine and the Feminine need to be available to us. Healthy Masculine energy brings strength, protection, confidence and many other benefits. You can check out the Sacred Feminine blog post or Sacred Feminine YouTube Meditation if you want to balance both sides.
Sacred Masculinity is very important, because we see a lot of toxic masculinity in the world: aggression, inability to process feelings, domineering etc. Sacred Masculinity brings a quiet confidence found in acknowledging your talents, a balanced view of power and responsibility and strength. It's not surprising that there are many painful masculine archetypes, while we need to those that are healthy. So, time to affirm those in ourselves and in the world.
Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).
Dear People,
Often I get asked how people in my private life feel about my gifts and if they believe in the work I do. I think it's a valid question but it doesn't have a very easy answer, as each of my family members, extended family members and friends have a different view and I tend not to discuss 'work' often. I think all of you can imagine that talking shop is tiring when you are in social situations. I also highly treasure privacy for my clients. However, there are some common denominators, so I will discuss this in broad strokes.
My Healing Gifts
Not everybody in my private life is open to receiving Healing, but most are willing to experience it through massage. Some people have worked with me and EFT and a select few have received energy therapy/True Unity from me. I have no objection to working with family members or friends, although I sometimes will suggest other types of healing if I believe those to be more effective for them.
Healing is deeply personal so I think it's more difficult for them then it's for me. They sometimes will find out that I know and see a lot more of their intimate or private lives then I ever let on. One family member in particular was a bit shocked with how much information I receive but never pass on, when I was asked to do some Healing work. Sometimes people will feel burdened asking me for a favor as they don't want me to work in social settings, others have no problems asking for a massage or energy therapy when they are hurting. I love to do Healing Work, but I also love to socialize. I'm always happy to help if I can in the moment or else plan a session with them at a later date.
My Psychic Gifts
I don't think anybody in my life has any doubt as to what I can do. Some will call it luck or good analysis when they are uncomfortable with Psychic or vibes, but it will come as no surprise that nobody in my private life is willing to bet against me. I find that quite disappointing, as I like to win bets. They know, even when they don't want to acknowledge where the knowledge comes from, that my advice is solid and my insights are worthwhile.
One time a friend told me he actually despises that he knows I'm Psychic. He knew that there is no way that he can explain why I know what I know or how it works. He felt that was really annoying and not fitting with his world view. He used to think that Psychics just do cold readings or are frauds, but he also knew that I could do Readings without ever even meeting a person (so cold reading is out) and that the information I give is specific and accurate, so it can't be fraud. He was annoyed enough to tell me that I mess with his head. Of course, this was never my intention, I just am who I am. I didn't get an instruction manual when I was born. I just do what I do.
I also have people in my private life who find it quite annoying that I'm 'always right'. While I always say that nobody has 100% accuracy and I don't claim it, they will insist that I'm always right. They ask for advice or my opinion, they try to dismiss it as unlikely or strange and then life unfolds like I said it would. Then they feel very annoyed. This is baffling to me, as I'd love to have somebody in my life giving me solid advice. However, my husband says he completely understands, because I'm always right and that's annoying in itself. I'm hoping some day I will understand.
I also sometimes get complaints that when people talk to me and I say something they never know if it's a stray thought, an idea or a prediction. One of my friends especially says how he keeps rerunning some of our conversations in his head or feels like he missed something important when something I mentioned comes to pass. I'm always 'on', but not everything I say is a prediction. I usually don't think to make a distinction myself.
So, does that mean that nobody in my private life is appreciative of this part of my gift? Well, no, many people are, just not as appreciative as clients. The difference is, that as my client, you are often ready and willing to listen to advice and gain extra knowledge, while in our private lives sometimes we aren't ready. We ask for advice from friends and then get mad when it's not what we want to hear. In the end, they are usually appreciative and they continue to ask for advice, because they know it's solid. I just wish I would get more gratitude and less frustration. I guess I do often find myself thinking: "Don't shoot the messenger".
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