Dear People,
Recently a new client asked if there was something that could be done to improve results before his session. A lot of my work focuses on improve results during the session and after the session, so today, let's talk about how you can use every step in the process to improve your results.
Before the intake
Usually people will send me an e-mail or call me to ask me about my services. Having a clear idea of what problem you want solved or what your goal is for a session really helps. You don't need to know why you have a certain problem or how to solve it, but if you can clearly define your problem or goal, it's easier for me to use my gifts to see what's needed. If you have trouble doing so, we can usually define it during the intake, but taking a bit of time to do so yourself definitely speeds up the process.
During the intake
During the intake we discuss what you want and what I have noticed in your energy field and other information I got from my gifts. Often people feel understood or get new information from me that already gets the energy flowing. Some people get more frustrated, while others get more at peace knowing help is around the corner. I've had multiple people tell me that they started to get results after the intake already!
Being able to answer questions and openly discussing your wants and needs really helps us find out if we can work well together and what is needed for you and your next level of healing. Intakes can be painful because we only discuss what's going wrong in your life, so make sure you are gentle with yourself.
Between the intake and the preparation phase
Sometimes our discussions from the intake have sparked some more insight in what you want or you might notice a few days later that you've forgotten to tell me something. Definitely take the time to send me a message to let me know.
Often people don't want to bother me, but if you tell me new information or want more things at the start of your session, it's much harder for me to incorporate it in the session itself. If I receive information before I prepare your session, I can make the time to listen to guidance or check blockages for you. So just let me know at least 24 hours before your session.
During the session
There are some things you can do to have the healing energy in the session as focused as possible. Ask for breaks if you need to sit down, need a drink or need the bathroom. Being uncomfortable during a healing session is counter productive.
Try to keep an open mind during the healing and just tune in as much as possible into what you feel or notice without letting your own judgements stop you. Trying is what is important, so if I notice you ignore your own inner voice, I will of course guide you towards the best healing flow. Don't get stuck in your own head, but just allow the flow to carry you.
Most of the time, during the session, all you need to do is just allow the healing energy to do it's work and follow my instructions. Sometimes clients are only willing to 'do this step' because I'm asking and while that still gives results (as I have your permission), it's more helpful if you are willing to help yourself and open up to miracles. So if it's possible for you to set aside your rational mind and just trust, have faith or allow yourself to receive this will definitely give better results.
Rarely people aren't willing to take a healing step and decide to start a discussion with me on why it won't work. Or they decide to dig in their heels and just tell me that it's useless. This is very human, but of course not the most effective way of healing. Sometimes I have time to convince people to at least just give it a try, but sometimes I will also notice that you aren't ready yet to heal on that level and it should be shelved for another time.
Directly after the session
Really take some time to yourself. You might feel energized from the healing energy, but you want it focused on you and not spread out towards other people, other goals or other problems. If you feel tired from the process, taking a break or a nap will help the energy to work on what's needed instead of trying to help you stay energized.
Aftercare: first 6 weeks after your session
While I have aftercare at 3 and 6 weeks, if you notice sudden negative experiences or a lack of healing flow, it helps if I know that as soon as possible. I can then check what happened and if this is something unrelated (family member gets ill), unconscious sabotage (you are afraid of the new level) or if the healing went to a different direction. Definitely get in touch with me if you feel like you aren't get the expected results that we discussed in your intake and that are in the email I sent you before your session.
It's much easier to redirect the healing flow or boost it while it's still available. The less flow is available, the more work it is for me to get it back up to were it needs to be and it will of course take longer to get results. Sometimes the aftercare just shows that we need to be more patient, because the energy is still flowing fine. In that case, we can add in an extra aftercare after the 6 week point to keep in touch and see how things are after a bit more time has passed.
I'm always disappointed if my aftercare emails go unanswered and people get back to me after the aftercare window has passed saying that they didn't get the results they hoped for. Aftercare is there to give you the best results, to be able to give tweaks when needed or give you some homework to get your results. It's true that the bulk of the healing happens in the session, but if aftercare was unnecessary I wouldn't offer it.
While I sympathize with people who didn't respond to my aftercare requests, I do not offer additional free work after the aftercare window has closed. Getting a healing flow running again is difficult work and the more time has passed the harder it is. If during earlier contact within the aftercare window we agreed to prolong the aftercare, that if course means you will receive more help free of charge.
Have a question for me? Don't hesitate to leave a comment, ask me in the practice, through DM on Instagram or Facebook or e-mail me.
Dear people,
Hope is a choice is a wonderful healing concept. Often people feel that some people are naturally hopeful, while others are more 'realistic'. Some people feel hope is bad for us, because when our hope has been in vain, we feel betrayed or disappointed. Hope in many cases has gotten a bad rap I fear, so today I'm writing about why hope should be celebrated.
Difference between hopeful and naivety
When we are hopeful, we choose to focus on a good outcome. We choose to believe that a good outcome is possible for us. Hope itself isn't based on good rational arguments, it's based on faith in a higher power, in ourselves, in humanity etc.
Yet hope is not naive, so hoping a spouse that strayed will stay faithful, can be truly hopeful, if you are also acknowledging that it is based on faith. But if you believe a known liar, because you want to close your eyes for your own intuition or for the truth, it's not hope, it's naivety or denial.
So hope doesn't give up discernment. You can acknowledge that you hope your romantic relationship will survive, while being honest that there are challenges ahead. So often people say: 'I hope X', but what they mean is: "X must happen for me, despite all rhyme or reason", while a healing hope would be: "I hope for X, knowing I need a miracle/help/support/ etc.". In that case, you focus on what you can do or you choose to consciously release fears.
Why you should hope
When we are without hope, it's much much harder to make a change. Hopeless people will tell you that nothing they will do will ever matter. So they are not stopping their addictions, making healthier choices, trying for a new job etc. Hopelessness kills our drive for change, for without hope, nothing will matter. So meaninglessness is also very connected to despair.
It's not easy to hope sometimes, especially when we feel we have had so many negative outcomes before. After 20 job interviews, a divorce, rejected bids on a house, years of not being pregnant, it's though to find hope. However, hope makes our journey so much better and if we acknowledge the signals from our intuition that tell us to persevere we will receive the help we need.
When I'm helping others who still have hope or who are willing to find it, they have an easier time dealing with disappointments, dealing with upsets and pain, because they know a good outcome can be just around the corner. So the journey is much easier to bear. Of course hope is something that can be very fleeting, so it's definitely normal to lose it again sometimes or to have to consciously choose to let go of fears.
When you shouldn't hope (anymore)
Sometimes it's clear that there is no hope left and we need to accept that what is dying in our lives. It could be a dream, a job, a relationship or even our life. It's though sometimes to give up and surrender, understanding that this particular cycle has ended. If all signals are showing you to move on, to let go and to give up, then trying to wade against the current will only cause you more harm.
It's not easy to grief the end of hope, so definitely be gentle with yourself and others. It's easy to be angry that somebody is in denial, but it's very human to not want to see the truth sometimes. I've had people upset with me because in their eyes "I refuse to help", while others have been glad I'm not willing to let them pay for an unattainable outcome.
Hope exercise
If there is something you'd love to accomplish or a situation you feel hopeless about, this exercise will help you get back in tune with the Flow of Miracles. Try to find the place to sit quietly for around 15 minutes.
- Breathe in an out and release all frustration, tantrums and sabotage you have around this. Consciously let go on how you feel things should work and allow the work to be done through you. Place your hands on your body wherever it feels comfortable.
- Consciously release all fears around the situation. Acknowledge that this can be accomplished through you.
- Allow Higher Power to fill you with hope and listen to what you can do to help co-create. Acknowledge that you might hear that you are going in the wrong direction and if so, ask for the situation to be resolved through you.
- Breath in and out again and allow the wonder of hope to circulate through your (energy) body
If you still have trouble being filled with hope or are worried that you are focused on something that isn't right for you, don't hesitate to reach out. If you want to share your experiences with this exercise or your thoughts, leave a comment on this Blog, my Facebook Fan Page or contact me on Instagram.