Dear People,
I always do an intake to discuss which healing focus I would recommend. A focus is always positive: it's where we want to go and what energy we'd like to see. Sometimes it's very clear what the focus should be, but sometimes I offer multiple options. Today I want to talk about how I choose a healing focus and why I sometimes offer choices.
Broad vs narrow focus
There is no good or bad, but since a session has a healing limit, it's interesting to talk about what difference a healing focus can make. A lot of people think that the time limit is what defines how much can be healed, but the actual limits is how much my clients energy system can handle. So what does it mean to choose a broad or a narrow focus?
I will be using an example to highlight the benefits and drawbacks.
For example: a client comes to me for a physical problem. Underlying the problem where some old child hood patterns, so we could choose Inner Child as a focus, to heal those and expect physical relief, more energy, more creativity and passion and a bit of wonder. During the session, other Inner Child wounds might pop up, allowing for other area's of her life to also be healed. Since this focus is broader than only the problem, that means that were have a wider range of results.
We could also have chosen a focus based on the problem only, like for example "Healed Problem". We might have found other underlying causes if those existed besides the childhood patterns, but we wouldn't have had extra results. So in this case, the focus is more narrow, the results are more narrow, but, it's likelier we would clear the problem in one session if healing only the childhood problems wasn't enough to change the energy sufficiently.
The broader the focus is, the more likely it is you'd get additional benefits, but also the likelier it is that we can't heal deeply enough to solve the problem completely. Sometimes a problem is just tied to one thing only, but sometimes it's a web of different issues that all need to be healed.
Based on our intake, I tend to choose a focus that has a large chance (70% and up) to resolve the initial problem people asked me to help heal. That means it's rare for me to need a second session. Sometimes I do in case of additional resistance popping up, sometimes our session got too broad anyway during the healing (when painful things pop up I won't shy away from healing them, even if we didn't discuss it in the intake) and even more rarely sometimes the energy body of the client can't handle too much healing at once.
Let me define your focus
A lot of times people want to tell me what to heal, but we don't always know what's really the underlying cause or causes. I use my gifts to find out what they are. Sometimes they resonate a lot with people during the intake, sometimes they are surprised.
Surprises tend to come when the main issue is in a past life, family pattern or subconscious behavior. Sometimes that means people have already healed on the mental or emotional levels and are stuck in deeper layers, sometimes it means that they just aren't aware of what also is influencing their behavior.
So don't worry if you don't know if you need a Healing or a Reading or if you don't know how to resolve things. That's my job. And why I schedule time to discuss things with you during an intake. I prepare all my intakes so I can listen to what's going on and notice how your energy field is behaving.
Why there is sometimes a choice
Problems can almost always be solved in different ways. I tend to choose the broadest focus that still has high likelihood to have additional benefits, but sometimes I can see two clear ways forward. For example, I had a client who was interested in building her own business.
One focus would be: flourishing <business name>, in which case the expected results would be more clients, more money and more joy. It would focus on blockage moving forward, choices to be made in the near future and how to navigate the business for the coming months.
However, this client was also a bit of a workaholic and there were some issues with balancing work load, making sure healthy boundaries were set and some other more personal issues. So the other focus could be: balance. In which case, the expected results would be: better work/life balance, better health and more joy. It would focus mainly on personal growth and how to be the best business owner to yourself and your clients. This would in turn, also lead to more clients and more money, but slower compared to the first path.
Neither focus would be wrong, but the expected results would differ, due to where we'd put the emphasis on healing. Would it be based on growing the business or growing yourself. Would be it based on success or based on balance. It's up to the client what is the right path forward, but often, the second choice comes back around one way or another. If Flourishing is the focus, balance will become a topic after a while, because nothing can grow without limits. If Balance is the focus, then flourishing will ultimately follow.
I will write more in a new blog post on how intakes work and why I choose to work with them. If you are wondering if I can help you, just ask me for a free intake. If you have another question for me send me an email or talk to me through the socials by leave a comment on my Blog, Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.
Dear People,
Recently I've had people ask me if I can help them with unexplained or vague health issues. It's though when we don't know what's going on with our bodies or why things are happening. So I want to expand a bit on the situation of unexplained or vague health issues in this blog post.
Understanding what's going on
First things first: I won't diagnose people or specific health issues. I understand that it's stressful to not have an official diagnosis, but if you are looking for that, you need to look elsewhere. I don't believe it's ethical for me to diagnose people.
So if I can't give you a diagnosis, what can I do? I can use my gifts to see if I can pinpoint what the underlying problem is. Sometimes this is purely physical and I can advise you to pursue further action within the modern health system, but more often I can see how illness is created on several different levels.
Those levels can be physical, mental, emotional or spiritual, but they can also be family patterns, old karma, old trauma etc. Some examples: a destructive thought pattern (I can't disappoint people), an energetic blockage (old trauma from a previous injury), family pattern (don't be vulnerable) or any other level where healing is needed.
Understanding is a wonderful first step into healing, but that's all it is: the first step.
Healing the issue
Sometimes people do know one part of their problem (I know I can't sit still), but can't seem to heal it and more forward in a healthy way. So I usually discuss in your intake what thoughts you have and what you have tried already.
Often, I recommend doing a healing session, so we can heal the conflict within and move towards wholeness. I prepared the session to see what parts of you need healing and during the session there are steps of accepting, accountability, forgiveness and other healing steps until the healing flow is restored.
Sometimes people are surprised to notice that some old things are still at play, while other times the insights they gain help them move forward in healthy ways. It's always a delight to hear what type of improvements people noticed when we speak again as after care.
Rarely, I refer people to different types of healers, if I feel the health issue needs immediate intervention or a different type of healing is more advisable. While I'd love to heal everybody, I feel it's my duty to get people the fastest towards health.
If you are wondering if I can help you, just ask me for a free intake. If you have another question for me send me an email or talk to me through the socials by leave a comment on my Blog, Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.
Dear People,
Recently a new client asked if there was something that could be done to improve results before his session. A lot of my work focuses on improve results during the session and after the session, so today, let's talk about how you can use every step in the process to improve your results.
Before the intake
Usually people will send me an e-mail or call me to ask me about my services. Having a clear idea of what problem you want solved or what your goal is for a session really helps. You don't need to know why you have a certain problem or how to solve it, but if you can clearly define your problem or goal, it's easier for me to use my gifts to see what's needed. If you have trouble doing so, we can usually define it during the intake, but taking a bit of time to do so yourself definitely speeds up the process.
During the intake
During the intake we discuss what you want and what I have noticed in your energy field and other information I got from my gifts. Often people feel understood or get new information from me that already gets the energy flowing. Some people get more frustrated, while others get more at peace knowing help is around the corner. I've had multiple people tell me that they started to get results after the intake already!
Being able to answer questions and openly discussing your wants and needs really helps us find out if we can work well together and what is needed for you and your next level of healing. Intakes can be painful because we only discuss what's going wrong in your life, so make sure you are gentle with yourself.
Between the intake and the preparation phase
Sometimes our discussions from the intake have sparked some more insight in what you want or you might notice a few days later that you've forgotten to tell me something. Definitely take the time to send me a message to let me know.
Often people don't want to bother me, but if you tell me new information or want more things at the start of your session, it's much harder for me to incorporate it in the session itself. If I receive information before I prepare your session, I can make the time to listen to guidance or check blockages for you. So just let me know at least 24 hours before your session.
During the session
There are some things you can do to have the healing energy in the session as focused as possible. Ask for breaks if you need to sit down, need a drink or need the bathroom. Being uncomfortable during a healing session is counter productive.
Try to keep an open mind during the healing and just tune in as much as possible into what you feel or notice without letting your own judgements stop you. Trying is what is important, so if I notice you ignore your own inner voice, I will of course guide you towards the best healing flow. Don't get stuck in your own head, but just allow the flow to carry you.
Most of the time, during the session, all you need to do is just allow the healing energy to do it's work and follow my instructions. Sometimes clients are only willing to 'do this step' because I'm asking and while that still gives results (as I have your permission), it's more helpful if you are willing to help yourself and open up to miracles. So if it's possible for you to set aside your rational mind and just trust, have faith or allow yourself to receive this will definitely give better results.
Rarely people aren't willing to take a healing step and decide to start a discussion with me on why it won't work. Or they decide to dig in their heels and just tell me that it's useless. This is very human, but of course not the most effective way of healing. Sometimes I have time to convince people to at least just give it a try, but sometimes I will also notice that you aren't ready yet to heal on that level and it should be shelved for another time.
Directly after the session
Really take some time to yourself. You might feel energized from the healing energy, but you want it focused on you and not spread out towards other people, other goals or other problems. If you feel tired from the process, taking a break or a nap will help the energy to work on what's needed instead of trying to help you stay energized.
Aftercare: first 6 weeks after your session
While I have aftercare at 3 and 6 weeks, if you notice sudden negative experiences or a lack of healing flow, it helps if I know that as soon as possible. I can then check what happened and if this is something unrelated (family member gets ill), unconscious sabotage (you are afraid of the new level) or if the healing went to a different direction. Definitely get in touch with me if you feel like you aren't get the expected results that we discussed in your intake and that are in the email I sent you before your session.
It's much easier to redirect the healing flow or boost it while it's still available. The less flow is available, the more work it is for me to get it back up to were it needs to be and it will of course take longer to get results. Sometimes the aftercare just shows that we need to be more patient, because the energy is still flowing fine. In that case, we can add in an extra aftercare after the 6 week point to keep in touch and see how things are after a bit more time has passed.
I'm always disappointed if my aftercare emails go unanswered and people get back to me after the aftercare window has passed saying that they didn't get the results they hoped for. Aftercare is there to give you the best results, to be able to give tweaks when needed or give you some homework to get your results. It's true that the bulk of the healing happens in the session, but if aftercare was unnecessary I wouldn't offer it.
While I sympathize with people who didn't respond to my aftercare requests, I do not offer additional free work after the aftercare window has closed. Getting a healing flow running again is difficult work and the more time has passed the harder it is. If during earlier contact within the aftercare window we agreed to prolong the aftercare, that if course means you will receive more help free of charge.
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Dear People,
I already wrote a little bit about my work with animals in 2012 here, but since it's World Animal Day, I thought I'd expand that answer a little bit. We all love our pets and it's very difficult to see them suffer, be in pain or feeling like we are failing to understand why they behave like they do. So let me answer some common questions about healing animals.
What does a session look like when it's for animal instead of a person?
Since pets can't talk, I can of course not hold an intake with them. I will talk to the owner about what type of problem they have seen or what they have heard from their vet. The preparation work is the same for a human or for a pet. I look at the energy field, listen for guidance and tune into any type of messages.
In the session itself, I can't ask the pet to take the steps during my True Unity technique. Sometimes the owner takes the steps for the animal and sometimes I tune in to see when the energy shift is done. I can tune in when the pet is in my practice, but also if the pet is just at the owners home. I often ask owners to schedule a healing time when pets are resting or relaxed so the energy can flow as easily as possible.
For after care, I of course talk with the owner on what changes they have noticed (in behavior or in health) and if I notice the healing energy isn't flowing like I'd want to see it (at the 3 week mark) or the results aren't like we expected, I will boost it, the same as I would do for a human client.
Why would people ask for a healing session for their pet?
Behavior issues in pets can be very hard to treat. Some owners have done a lot of training, but still notice fear responses or anger responses in their pets. Healing is especially good for pets who have been abused in previous homes and continue to feel unsafe in current loving homes. I've had great success in healing trauma in humans and in animals, but while a human can talk and process changes, a pet can't. As a result of my healing pets have become more relaxed, less vocal and more playful within days of a session.
Owners also sometimes have a hard time understanding behavior in their pets. Why does their dog suddenly bark a lot or why is the cat so stressed that it's peeing in the house? Finding out exactly what's going on and treating that is a lot more helpful then general treatment for anxiety with pills or other medical interventions. It's a pity animals can't speak to us, but tuning into their energy I often get a lot of emotional impressions and guidance as to what's bothering them. While the answer can be as simple as changing a jacket that scares them, changing their food or walking times, finding that out by process of elimination is a lot harder. That's why a session can be so helpful.
And of course, just like with humans, there can be issues that regular medical care can't treat (effectively), Healing work can reduce pain when pets are allergic to pain medications or when they react badly to them by being extremely drowsy. It can also speed up healing when the body of the pet is having a hard time on it's own. Of course, healing sessions have their limits as well, so sometimes there isn't anything I can do for a pet and it's owner.
If you are wondering if I can help your pet, just ask me for a free intake. If you have another question for me send me an email or talk to me through the socials by leave a comment on my Blog, Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.
Dear People,
Recently I got asked again if I could help find a missing item. It's not a service I offer, so it's not on the website, but since this sometimes come up and sadly, we all lose items, I decided to write about it today. I reckon we all lost things we care about for a little while or maybe even permanently and wouldn't it be nice to know where those items are?
How I find items most of the time
For me personally, if I can't find something, I first try to find things the usual way. I look around to see if I can find it. If that's unsuccessful I go through my memory and try to recreate the situation or the whole day to see where I would have put something. Often I find my keys dropped behind something or notice that I left them in a jacket pocket.
I once also found my husbands iPad by just going through the motions of how he thinks and behaves. It was in between the mattresses of our bed. He normally leaves it on the floor, but since he did some vacuum cleaning he decided to put it up. He was also going to change the sheets, so on top didn't make sense and he placed it in between. For him, me finding it, after he looked on his desks, in his bags and throughout the house was like magic. For me it made perfect sense.
Using my Psychic Gifts to find items for myself
So if I can't seem to find my item I usually try to use a pendulum. It can swing towards the item you are looking for and I can ask it yes/no questions to see where something is. However, it's very easy to influence your pendulum when you are anxious or upset, so using it to find items isn't always my forte.
I once lost my own pendulum after giving a Pendulum Workshop. So I then used my keys to try to find it. It kept saying it was in the hallway and specifically in my bag. I had looked everywhere in it (I thought) so I was so upset that I just couldn't find it. In the end I gave up on finding it and a sweet client gifted me with a new one later on.
A few months later I was using the exact same backpack and realized it had a small pocket in the front. A pocket I normally never use (as it's easily accessible for thieves). I opened that tiny pocket and found my pendulum! So yeah, my gifts had been telling me all along it was in that bag in the hallway, but I still hadn't found it!
Using my Psychic Gifts to find items for others
Once somebody asked the whole forum of Tarot Readers if they could help her find her camera. Everybody got different cards of course, because God will show you what you need to hear, in it's own voice for you. A lot of people hoped to see similarities in the answers, so that it would be easier to pinpoint the camera.
I don't remember what card I got exactly, but I told her I thought it was in her bathroom, seeing a shower and some other things and probably in a laundry basket if she had one. I could just see things on top of it, so it wasn't easily visible. It was definitely a super strange place for a camera to end up, especially because she feared it got lost either in her car or at another location. Imagine her surprise when she told me 1) I definitely described her bathroom and 2) she found it in between her clothing in her laundry basket!
The Tarot Readers felt I didn't exactly use the Tarot Card to find it though, especially as with my gifts it sounded more like remote viewing, finding something based on my impressions of somebodies home and not the keywords from cards. That's fair, because while I use the cards as a tool, my own gifts give more information then just the card.
A client once asked me if I could help her find a little box with jewelry that she had misplaced. She had looked everywhere but hadn't found it and was really desperate. It was lost for years and while she was always hoping it would turn up, she decided to ask if I could look for it. I used my gifts and got a few impressions that I sent to her. She was very happy to report that she found it based on my descriptions.
While I wish I only had success stories, I also have had impressions that weren't clear enough to solve the case, although the items were found afterwards. In hindsight it made sense based on my description, but in the moment it didn't give enough information to find it. I also noticed in some cases that items were really lost/outside the home and didn't get enough information to figure out where.
It's though to use my gifts to find items, especially since I often do it without ever setting foot in somebodies home. Since I can't guarantee a good success rate and it's very time intensive I chose not to offer any services like this professionally.
Do you have a funny story of finding items with your gifts or have a question you want to ask me for the blog? Don't hesitate to leave a comment, ask me in the practice, through DM on Instagram or Facebook or e-mail me.
Dear People,
A lot of people ask me about who is helping them in this life. It could be a Guide, Totem Animal, Guardian Angel or even a passed loved one. Often this is because they want to create a stronger connection and be able to work with them easily. So they ask who it is or for specific names. A few years ago I've written about my own Guides, but today I'm writing about answering questions about other people's Guides.
What type of helpers do you recognize?
There are many different entities, spiritual helpers or spiritual energy that people can work with. A small summary here might help you realize that you can try connecting to much more then you ever thought.
- Guides - usually souls that are willing to help others, could be a deceased loved one
- (Guardian) Angels - Angelic energy that can help with healing, guidance or protection
- Animal Totems - Energy and lessons from Animal Guides
- Faeries - Energy and lessons from Fae/Earth Guides
- Ancestors - Guidance from people in your own family tree
You can find more information in my other blogpost: Thoughts on Healing - Available Energy/Guidance
Can you give me the names of the Guides/Energy I'm working with?
I'm always very careful with giving out names. Not because I feel that people don't deserve it or that it's inherently wrong. However, I believe that when we are forging a connection, that finding out or receiving the name, helps that connection immensely. It's a special moment and it also helps us reconnect.
I have to admit I always name a lot of things in my life and I've heard that this is done a lot in Shamanic traditions. I haven't studied with a Shaman, but I have noticed a lot of past life flashbacks of Shamanic lives. A naming still feels like a claiming to me, so naming things for others doesn't sit that well with me.
I still sometimes do it, when somebody really want to know a name to get a better connection or wants a confirmation of the name they themselves have heard. So you can always feel free to ask this question.
Different ways connect to your guides
There are many different ways to connect to Guiding energy. You can do a (guided) meditation, take a moment of silence, do automatic writing, dream work or even ask for a sign. I've had people repeatedly find objects to signify it was Guide message or even get a name.
It's alright to try out a few different things to see what works for you. I did mostly dream work to connect with my Guides and even when I didn't specify a question, I would often dream of my Guides. For Totem Work I'd prefer meditative trance, sometimes with my own drum and for Angelic work I tend to meditate.
There is no right or wrong way to connect - just play around and see what comes easiest to you. Once you have a name however, it can be very helpful to just call on that name, a few times, until you start feeling the connection.
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Dear People,
Often I get asked how people in my private life feel about my gifts and if they believe in the work I do. I think it's a valid question but it doesn't have a very easy answer, as each of my family members, extended family members and friends have a different view and I tend not to discuss 'work' often. I think all of you can imagine that talking shop is tiring when you are in social situations. I also highly treasure privacy for my clients. However, there are some common denominators, so I will discuss this in broad strokes.
My Healing Gifts
Not everybody in my private life is open to receiving Healing, but most are willing to experience it through massage. Some people have worked with me and EFT and a select few have received energy therapy/True Unity from me. I have no objection to working with family members or friends, although I sometimes will suggest other types of healing if I believe those to be more effective for them.
Healing is deeply personal so I think it's more difficult for them then it's for me. They sometimes will find out that I know and see a lot more of their intimate or private lives then I ever let on. One family member in particular was a bit shocked with how much information I receive but never pass on, when I was asked to do some Healing work. Sometimes people will feel burdened asking me for a favor as they don't want me to work in social settings, others have no problems asking for a massage or energy therapy when they are hurting. I love to do Healing Work, but I also love to socialize. I'm always happy to help if I can in the moment or else plan a session with them at a later date.
My Psychic Gifts
I don't think anybody in my life has any doubt as to what I can do. Some will call it luck or good analysis when they are uncomfortable with Psychic or vibes, but it will come as no surprise that nobody in my private life is willing to bet against me. I find that quite disappointing, as I like to win bets. They know, even when they don't want to acknowledge where the knowledge comes from, that my advice is solid and my insights are worthwhile.
One time a friend told me he actually despises that he knows I'm Psychic. He knew that there is no way that he can explain why I know what I know or how it works. He felt that was really annoying and not fitting with his world view. He used to think that Psychics just do cold readings or are frauds, but he also knew that I could do Readings without ever even meeting a person (so cold reading is out) and that the information I give is specific and accurate, so it can't be fraud. He was annoyed enough to tell me that I mess with his head. Of course, this was never my intention, I just am who I am. I didn't get an instruction manual when I was born. I just do what I do.
I also have people in my private life who find it quite annoying that I'm 'always right'. While I always say that nobody has 100% accuracy and I don't claim it, they will insist that I'm always right. They ask for advice or my opinion, they try to dismiss it as unlikely or strange and then life unfolds like I said it would. Then they feel very annoyed. This is baffling to me, as I'd love to have somebody in my life giving me solid advice. However, my husband says he completely understands, because I'm always right and that's annoying in itself. I'm hoping some day I will understand.
I also sometimes get complaints that when people talk to me and I say something they never know if it's a stray thought, an idea or a prediction. One of my friends especially says how he keeps rerunning some of our conversations in his head or feels like he missed something important when something I mentioned comes to pass. I'm always 'on', but not everything I say is a prediction. I usually don't think to make a distinction myself.
So, does that mean that nobody in my private life is appreciative of this part of my gift? Well, no, many people are, just not as appreciative as clients. The difference is, that as my client, you are often ready and willing to listen to advice and gain extra knowledge, while in our private lives sometimes we aren't ready. We ask for advice from friends and then get mad when it's not what we want to hear. In the end, they are usually appreciative and they continue to ask for advice, because they know it's solid. I just wish I would get more gratitude and less frustration. I guess I do often find myself thinking: "Don't shoot the messenger".
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I recently had an interesting question: "how we know we are healed?" It's not that easy to answer in just a few sentences, so I have decided to write a blog post about it. A healing path is very personal, with obstacles and goals along the way, so how do we know it has ended?
Onion model of healing
I strongly believe that we all continue to grow and learn, so that means we also continue to heal throughout life. It's like we are an onion, peeling back layer after layer, until we reach our own core, who we are meant to be. Our soul is like a diamond and we keep on creating more and more shiny facets.
As such, we never truly reach the end of healing so the answer to the question would be: You are never healed, but always healing. It's true in a way, but also a very unsatisfying answer.
However, understanding this model means you understand that sometimes we think we are healed, but yet, another layer comes up. That doesn't mean you weren't healed before, but it does mean a new level of health is available to you.
For example: if you healed childhood trauma, new pain may show up when you become a parent yourself. Suddenly, some parts of you that you never were able to see as harmed, show up to be healed and you can reach a new level of healing. In between becoming a parent and healing the trauma however, you probably felt completely healed and free.
Healing the level you are at
So I usually tell people I help heal a level of their lives, which allows them to be happy and grow again (instead of being stuck in pain, trauma or a rut), but it doesn't guarantee that you never face a new level of healing. So it's very normal for me to have clients who come back to heal new levels or areas of their lives.
So how do you know that the level you were at is healed and you are free and clear moving into a new level?
For me personally, I check for the following things:
- Frequency: If the problem was occurring frequently, is it now hardly ever there or even non-existent?
- Impact: If the problem had negative consequences, how have those consequences changed? Does it have negative consequences at all or are you now neutral about it?
- Capability: Can you now handle the problem easily and without pain?
- Growth: Do you notice you are handling the problem differently?
- Next step: Did you get new opportunities and/or results showing you that you have moved on from this level?
For example, if you had trauma with a family member, being able to be around them and dealing in a positive way with their behavior, would count as healed. If you are however still experiencing anxiety, pain, hurt or guilt, that means you haven't healed it at that level.
If you have had a pattern of bad partnerships, being healed would count if you no longer carry negativity from your ex-partners, but it certainly would be clear healing if you build a healthy partnership with a new partner (next step healing). That doesn't mean you never have any fights, but you definitely can see the difference between previous relationships and your new one.
I would of course prefer to help people reach their next level in one session, but sometimes that's too big a leap for people to comfortably take. Healing must be done at the correct pace, else it will cause harm or stall. Too fast means people will usually block themselves, too slow and we lose hope and get stuck in detours. So for true healing, it's vital to know where the problem lies and to solve that. After that, the energy will just do it's work.
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When I first tell people the energy of a session can still be felt 6-8 weeks after, a lot of people don't really believe me. I can understand why, but I've been doing this work for many years now and I keep getting updates from people sometimes even months later. So here is why I know True Unity works longer then just the session itself.
When we need a slower change
Often we want things to change directly, right now, completely, but a lot of times this is not what true change is like. This is because a sudden complete shift scares us. We want it, but at the same time we'd be extremely afraid of this type of miracle. We all need some time to process and most of us will appreciate gentle changes.
I can always see how ready somebody is to receive fast healing, because then the session usually has huge and sudden results, which makes me feel very grateful. However, positive change building up slowly throughout the weeks till the new level is reached is also a wonderful result.
So one of the reasons I can see True Unity energy working for so long is that we sometimes need that, so because the shift that was needed has been achieved, the energy will get you to the next level and it takes you there slowly but surely. I've had people reporting positive shifts months after their session with me.
More energy available
The second reason why you will see long term results and feel that energy is because there simply is more energy available. That is not only the energy I gave to people during a session, but also the energy within that is now freed to be available to do positive things. If most of our energy goes to pain, suffering or other people, it can't be used for positive change.
With inner conflicts solved, we are no longer working at odds with Heaven, but are co-creating our Golden Path. That means that we are within the Flow of Miracles, being able to receive bigger and better gifts and rewards. It doesn't matter what type of higher power you believe in, a lot of people do feel that positive alignment shift or will notice the results.
Often, these gifts show up within a few weeks of positive change building upon positive change. So it's common for people to tell me that they have found new opportunities for their career, love life etc. because of a session with me.
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This has been a question that I've been asked multiple times after people have had a session with me. I sometimes get asked a variation of this question before I work, which happens more often if people come to for relationship or family problems. They ask me: "Will this work also impact my partner/child/family". The short answer is yes, the long answer is this blog post.
Your energy changes, your behavior changes and your network changes
We are all part of the network of life and when one of us changes, the whole network does. It's often that people say we are all connected, but we might not always realize that. The first major shift is the following: when you are more energetic, happy, available, open, alive, vibrant... and so on your behavior changes. You can be more patient, more tolerant, more loving, more kind and other people will respond to that. One single act of kindness can have a ripple effect to thousands of people.
Since our energy changed, our behavior changes as well and it's much easier to step out of negative patterns like power struggle, the drama triangle, attacks and self attack. Often that means that you will see behavior changes in those around you, as they respond more positively to the new you by finding their new them.
Depending on what your session was far, you can also see more specific changes based on what has healed within you. For example if you've become more assertive you might notice your friendships deepening and meeting more like minded people.
Changes in your family by fixing ancestral problems
Sometimes during a True Unity session we work on ancestral problems. It could be that you noticed that your whole family has difficulties dealing with money (some having too much but being scrooges, others having too little) or with love (loads of heart break and divorces and people who never connect to others) or any type of other problem. We often notice what type of unhealthy patterns are working through our families.
Healing an ancestral problem is vital in making sure the unhealthy behavior pattern stops with us and doesn't continue on to our children. Sometimes people come and tell me that they feel they are 'just like their mom/dad' and they know it's unhealthy but feel that they are unable to change. That's where ancestral healing comes in.
By healing the pattern at the root, where the ancestor has made a mistake, and accessing the lessons and the gift, we can heal the whole family. Often times if this healing was done, people report back that they see the patterns disappearing in their families. Suddenly people become more open and loving and relationship pain disappears or health issues seem to get better for family members as well.
I love the saying: "A rising tide lifts all ships", because for me, that's what healing is all about. Being able to help the whole world.
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I always get a lot of questions about my beliefs and recently I talked with somebody about entities and what I believe in. Beliefs of course will change over time, so while I'm writing this I know I might have better understanding as the years ago by. I don't do much entity work, but I am open to do so when it's necessary (with for example house cleansing or energy field cleansing) or when a message needs to be passed on (departed loved ones).
People who passed on
Most common are departed loved one's that still come by and try to pass on messages to the people they love. They can try to reach the person directly, by dreams, smells or other activities or they can show up during healing sessions or during a Reading or at the preparation stage.
People who passed on can also be connected to objects and places. Often they are not connected to a loved one, but instead they are present in a house, near an object or place etc. Sometimes they try to communicate, but more often people feel a presence, chills or have other symptoms that make them uncomfortable.
For me there is a difference between people who have been to the Light and come back, often softer, more understanding and easier to connect too and people who continued to hang around. The second group is harder to connect with, as they haven't done their own emotional and spiritual work. I often ask for help to have them pass on and cleanse a house or place.
Entities you can't recognize as people
Sometimes energy is there that seems to have been cognizant of something before, but you can't really talk to. This can be energy that's left behind after a passing, but can also be emotional energy that has been send out or other types of negative energy. It can get into people's energy field or in their homes and cause feelings of depression, pain or sadness or just make people feel tired.
It's good to clear out those energies, especially since while they can feel malicious, they aren't that way on purpose. Sometimes people feel these entities are like parasites: they live off our energy and can make us feel drained. If I feel any in people's fields, I often help clear them out.
I don't consciously look for one unless there is a reason to suspect people are experiencing this. I regularly check my energy field though, as entities can be attracted to high energy and joy, but also to people who've been through a lot and whose energy fields aren't as protected as they should be.
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- I prefer to have a clear and solid connection to Spirit. Meditating helps me to create clarity and listen to my intuition easily.
- I prefer to process my emotions, worries etc. by meditating.
- I love using meditations in healing work, like shamanic journeys or manifestation meditation
There are many health benefits as well, but these are the ones that make me the happiest.
Why I recommend meditation
Our lives are continuously busy and it's hard to find moments of reflection. It's like we are constantly adding stress, but only rarely removing it. Meditation is a powerful tool to increase intuition (making our lives easier!) and well being.
I think meditation is for everyone, but finding the right meditation practice for yourself is vital. If you try a focused breath meditation and a few days or weeks in you still haven't reached a meditative trance or space, it's very discouraging. I also feel that different types of meditation also fill different needs, so I prefer a mix, while others might prefer to dive deep in a single meditation practice.
If you have any questions about meditation, feel free to watch back the Instagram Live and leave a comment there or here. Want to meditate more? Check out my Manifesting Meditations on YouTube and see if they work for you.
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Dear People,
Recently a client asked me what the differences are between a boost and a healing session. A smart question, because you can find the personal healing sessions under services on my website and sometimes different types of boost under events. So today I'm talking about the three main differences between them.
Difference 1: Personalized focus
One of the things that is clear to see that a healing session always has a personalized focus. We decide together what you want to work on during your intake. A boost has a focus I've chosen, based on what I feel global energy or month energy is showing me many people need. So a boost doesn't need an intake.
So if you want to make a decision based on a healing session vs a boost, the main question would be: does the focus work for you? If the focus I've chosen is one that you do want to work on or that does resonate as necessary for you, book a boost. If you feel you need something different ask for an intake for a healing session.
Difference 2: Solve a problem or reach a next level
When I have a healing session, often, there are things people want to let go or a problem they want to resolve. As such, mostly there is a clear issue that they want help with. Healing energy takes a much longer time to resolve blockages, due to humans not dealing too well with rapid changes.
With a boost, it's often not a problem that makes people feel that they want some extra help, but a new level that they want to reach. They see that they'd love to have some more growth in their lives and choose to have a growth boost. Results are usually fast and in the first 3 weeks.
If you feel you need more help to reach the next level, due to more blockages, definitely choose a healing session. If you have long standing chronic problems in the focus area, a boost isn't the right way to solve them.
Difference 3: Cost, time and opportunity
Since a boost doesn't need an intake and doesn't need after care at 6 weeks, I can offer it for cheaper than a regular session. I also sometimes offer 25 minute sessions instead of 50 minute sessions, making it an even better deal if you are looking for a small lift upwards or could just use a bunch of positive energy.
Remember that I only offer boost for a set amount of time, so if you do resonate with the focus of the boost, it's best to book it. Once it's gone, it's gone and you will have to book a regular healing session to reach your next level. You will get more personalized care and deeper results, but if that isn't what you want, book your boost as soon as possible.
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With everything going on, this question recently was on my mind a lot more then usually. I hope everybody's friends and families stay safe. A lot of people railing against fate or grieving loved ones. It's hard when it's our time to go, because no matter what we want, when it's time, it's time. So today, I'm writing a bit about this sad part of life and how it affects me and my gifts.
Dear People,
I've been asked this question before but with the current corona virus situation in the world, I felt it was a good idea to write a blog post about it today. The virus has reached Delft, the city of where I live and work, and it's expected that infections will grow. As such, I'm thinking I'd get this question more often in the coming weeks.
Impact of sickness on the healing work
Most sickness doesn't negatively impact your session at all. People are often worried that they won't remember the work that we've done or that they aren't in tip top shape to their part of the work. I can understand these worries, but even if you remember nothing of your session, you will get results. The most you have to do during healing work is answer some questions, so it's fine if you are up to that.
So if you can answer questions, you can make it to the practice in a safe way and you can stay in the room for at least 25 minutes, you can choose to come without any negative consequences to the healing work. Most people will even feel much better after the work, so coming will often speed up the recovery process.
The only exception is if you have a fever, which means I can't massage you (which I sometimes do with healing work).
Of course, often people prefer to either:
- reschedule the session for another day
- Change the session to a phone session
- Change the session to a report session
If you are sick I usually have no trouble working with you in a private session, but I do prefer a heads up. Every year I make sure I get my flu vaccine and I don't get sick often. Still, it's nice for me to know what is what, so I can take precautions, change plans I have with family members that are immunocompromised or just reschedule with you.
With corona now in Delft, it's vital that you call me and reschedule your session if you feel any symptoms that mean you suspect you might have corona.
Impact of your sickness on other clients
Since I often work with people who have serious illnesses, if you call to ask if you can come to a group event while sick with something that's contagious, I will say no. That small throat ache or cold can be serious for clients of mine who have COPD for example.
Yes, it's a pity if you can't make it, but let's keep each other safe and healthy.
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Dear People,
When people want to order a Reading I always have a small intake to see what answers they are looking for. Recently somebody asked me what the limits are and why I need to do an intake instead of just having a clever set of rules people can follow. So, time to explain some more about how my gift works.
How I see the future in general
In general, I see the future as follows: a stream such as a river (which can split, depending on your choices) and stones (which you will certainly encounter as the river flows over it). As I look further, it is more difficult to give very clear predictions, because depending on the choices you have made, your future may change. If the predictive part also talks about other people, it’s even harder to stay accurate, as they also have choices to make. Just as a weather forecast over several days the first few days is often more accurate than the last few days.
Time Limit
The closer an event is, the easier it is to predict. I can already see a lot of the energy flowing into something or not. I can see what kind of energy there is and what it is doing. The further along I look, usually the fuzzier it becomes.
Examples:
- A Reading about love/career/family opportunities will have a higher accuracy if it's about the next 2 months, instead of the next year, 5 years, decade etc.
- A Reading about an event in the next 2 months will have a higher accuracy if it's within the next 2 months, instead of next year, 5 years, decade etc.
- A Reading about your health will have a higher accuracy if it's about the next 2 months, instead of the next year, 5 years, decade etc.
If you are doing a Reading about choices, I always check multiple paths. As such I will see the pro's and the con's for all choices available. Sometimes people there is only one choice, but that's never true, as there is also the choice not to do something/to wait.
However, if a Reading is done about something with multiple choices in between, then it becomes less accurate. It means that for the end result to happen, all choices have to be made a certain way.
Examples:
- After a few dates, a Reading about long term relationship potential is more accurate then one where you check the time line for marriage
- After working in a position for a few months, a Reading about your possibilities for promotion is more accurate then one where you check if you can be CEO/CFO etc.
I almost never read about other people (see my Ethics), because I strongly believe in privacy. There are some exceptions, so that's why it's important to talk about this in an intake. The other people limit is that when I predict something that has more people involved, it almost always impacts the accuracy.
Examples:
- A Reading about possible job chances is less accurate if no offer has been made, since there can be many people applying/choosing to apply or not
- A Reading about buying a house is more accurate if there is just one person bidding, instead of several people
Even with these limits, I can still sometimes predict things that are far in the future, involve many people and seem to imply many choices. For me, that's obviously then a rock, a soul lesson that you will encounter, but I don't always know that in advance. That's why an intake is necessary.
Some examples include:
- Predicting somebody would have a child (far off, with a choice, limited people involved)
- Predicting somebody would not work in the field she was studying for, but would be offered a job with teens (months off, with a choice, many people involved)
- Predicting somebody would find their dream car (very small time window 2/3 days, with lots of choices, many people involved)
- Predicting somebody would be happy with the result of their court case (very long time window, lots of choices, many people involved)
Dear People,
Sometimes people ask me how they can support me and my work which is always a wonderful question to answer. I'm grateful that people are such fans of the work I do, that they want to spread the word and make sure my business prospers. There are many simple ways in which you can help, so if you never thought about this before, here are some things you can do.
Recommend me to others
Talk to other people about your results with me and how happy you are about them. When people ask about the positive changes they see in you, tell them you have had a session with me. For some people it might feel a bit embarrassing to do so. However, we all want our loved one's to feel better too, so it's a win-win situation. They get access to another way of healing and I get new clients.
Visit me with a friend
I have always offered free evenings in which you can come and meet me, find out more about the work I do, experience Healings or Readings in a group and ask me questions about my work. It's a joy to be able to offer this to existing clients and their friends, but also to new people.
I heard often that people say that they don't want to take these slots, because they feel they are only for new people, but that was never my intention. These evenings originated when existing clients asked me about possibilities to introduce me to others. So I took that suggestion and turned it into the free evenings & allowing people to bring a guest. Meeting me with a friend might be just what they needed and I am happy to provide that.
Buy a gift certificate
If you think I can help somebody else and you want to offer them a session, you can buy a gift certificate. I can make them out to any amount or just put "1 free session" or "1 free Reading" if that's what you want. I don't really advertise much with this, but I do have a wonderful graphic for a digital certificate or I can print one out for you.
Join my socials
I do not have a huge social media presence, but joining the Facebook Fan Page, following the Blog or joining the mailing list really helps me. Nowadays even publishers check out how big your online audience is. Of course, it's fun for you too, as you keep in touch with me, my work, the latest news and some great offers.
Write a review
When you are looking for something or somebody, I'm sure you check out reviews. They help make an informed choice, so leaving one for me helps show that my sessions are worthwhile. If you have the time, you can leave one on the Facebook Fan Page, LinkedIn or through Google Reviews.
Give me feedback
I love hearing your happy stories and sometimes I do use them in testimonials on the website (with permission of course). I love being able to use people's own words instead of using anonymized examples.
I also take all feedback very seriously, because everybody has something to teach me. I might not be able to follow up on your suggestions, but I do appreciate them. A lot of clients have given me wonderful ideas in the past and have helped me learn how to be more effective.
You can give me feedback by filling in the feedback form you get from me, but also by just sending me an e-mail or calling me.
I'm sure there are other ways of support I'm forgetting and I want to reiterate how grateful I am to all of my clients who have graced me with their presence. I love the work I do and thank you for reading this article.
Dear People,
Quite recently I've changed the way I've been doing healing work in my practice. I've heard a lot of questions about my old way and my new way. So what better time then to sit down and write a blog post about it. If you have any other questions, feel free to ask me in the practice, by e-mail or leave a message below this blog post or on Facebook.
Why did you change?
We all learn and grow during life. I have always told people I let God guide me to where I need to be and what I need to do. I can't tell people to move forward in their soul missions, if I do not do so myself. It's important for me to work authentically.
Does that mean that the old way was wrong?
Most definitely not. I have had beautiful miracles with my old way of working. I wouldn't have traded those for the world. I loved working with my gifts in that way, but I felt that I could do more if I switched to a new way.
What are the differences between the old and the new way?
The most obvious one is that in the old way people would lay down on the massage table while I treated them and in the new way I ask people to stand and move with me. I feel that physically moving helps the energy shift easier and more naturally.
In the old way I would remove the blockages in the energy field and ask people to repeat what I was saying. I would listen intuitively to what they would need to hear/need to say and often people would ask me if I was reading their minds, because they would feel heard. Repeating it before and after healing would give most people the feeling that things have shifted as they would notice changes in their tone of voice or body.
In the new way, I will ask people to stand in different positions and then ask them what they are experiencing. I engage their intuitive gifts which helps them to get really in touch with the energy and feel how things are shifting. By asking to move forward during healing, what we are doing integrates more and deeper. I can add in energy as needed as well as feel intuitively which positions are needed.
In the old way I would resolve most blockages in the energy field or in heart/head layers, meaning most inner conflicts would resolve, energy would be boosted and behavior would change. Sometimes we'd work on other layers or energy would work there on it's own. However, for difficult problems or chronic problems, I usually had to work at least 5-7 sessions and some problems would be very hard to shift.
In the new way, we work directly on the root, even if that is based on earlier experiences, family patterns, past lives or archetype imbalances. That means I can work a lot deeper and in more layers then ever before. By walking through those layers with people, they gain enormous new insights about themselves and how this problem has started. It gives immediately relief and helps them to also heal family members or other parties involved. Most people need only 1 session.
In the old way, the energy boost would be around 2-3 weeks for most people.
In the new way, I've heard people still feeling it 6-8 weeks later, as well as reporting more blessings, harmony and joy in their lives.
With the new sessions people have told me that they have received important insights that feel rooted within them, felt energy shift in themselves and most importantly report a lot of miracles and shifts in the outside world as well. It's lovely to see how much positive change these sessions bring.
Will you never work in the old way anymore?
I will never say never, because I do not know what life will bring. I'm phasing out this part of my work now, hoping to finish up work with people at the end of 2019. If I feel called to work beyond that, I will do so and I'm called again in the future, I will find a way to start again.
Why is the new way more expensive?
Obviously a lot of people understand that if I work more powerfully and faster, I need to raise prices. If not, I would go broke very soon. For every new client that finds me, I have to advertise, promote, do intakes, answer e-mails etc. If I work 6 times faster for the same price, I'd have to find 6 times more clients without any extra resources. Frankly, that's not possible without me going into burnout, which would mean I can't help anybody.
I asked God what the new price would be and even though I had difficulty with it in the beginning, I trust that it's the right way. I feel I'm still asking less then the true value of these sessions and the very positive responses from clients seem to agree with me.
Will you have more changes?
Of course, because life is ever changing. I'm planning on doing more group work and moving forward with my books and other projects.
So, keep yourself up to date by following the blog or Facebook Fan Page or by receiving the news letter.
Dear People,
The last two years I’ve been following workshops at PoV, Psychology of Vision, which was founded by Chuck and Lency Spezzano. My first contact with Chuck Spezzano’s work was when I received the Love Pack from a friend. This deck with Relationships Dynamics was very interesting and helpful. Some of you might have seen it in my practice or received Readings from it.
Throughout the years I bought 2 other Oracle Sets and have used them extensively. While Chuck has also wrote many books (English and German), I do not currently own any. He has written about many dynamics in relationships, but also about enlightenment, healing and other subjects.
Three years ago when I received a small inheritance I decided that I wanted to use part of it for my personal development so I wanted to do a workshop with his organization. Sadly, when I looked for workshops within Europe, I only saw workshops in Germany, Austria and Switzerland. My German is abysmal and since he has a lot of books in German, I was under the mistaken impression he speaks German in these workshops.
I opted to a 5-day workshop in England, with the sister organization Visionworks for Life instead. They use the same principles but work in a slightly different way. I loved the workshop there and we took the opportunity to see Stonehenge and many beautiful sights. I met somebody at the workshop who told me that the workshops are not in fact only in German, but that there is a translator there and they will translate from German to English for Chuck and from English to German for the participants.
That meant that doing a workshop in Germany, Switzerland or Austria was a possibility so in 2018 I followed two 3-day workshops with Chuck. Those were lovely and I returned home with new ideas, a deeper sense of peace and well being and more techniques to practice. This year I had the opportunity to do a 8 day workshops in the south of Germany which was specifically geared towards healing. Participants come from all walks of life (so not only people in the spiritual field or therapist) and age ranges.
I was privileged to meet a lot of wonderful people, be part of two shamanic ceremonies because Shamans were there, learn new techniques and heal myself.
A workshop consists of the main group, with whom we meet daily usually between 10.00-19.00 (with breaks). During main group time, we have a focus person who will lead the way for the group in a particular issue (that the focus person has present in their life and people in the group in their own way as well). We also have some dancing after breaks to keep the energy up. Chuck will also tell stories, explain theory and exercises to be done with your smaller group and/or your buddy. Joining is also done within the main group, which is a 1 on 1 exercise done to music.
The smaller group consists of at least 1 trainer of the organization, some participants and sometimes an additional (assistant) trainer. So far the group has ranged between 6-8 people in my workshops. Fate/Heaven/God gets to decide who is in your group, as they will draw the names of participants for each group. Exercises done with the smaller group are usually done in longer breaks and sometimes after the end of the workshop (depending on how much time they take/what the group decides).
In your smaller group, there is 1 (or 2 if they have an uneven number of participants) person who is considered your buddy. This buddy can be somebody who mirrors you (has the opposite dynamics), somebody who is just like you (struggling with the same things/has similarities in family, hobby’s, life experiences), is somebody who you have an unresolved issue with (reminds you of your boss/family member etc.), is somebody who is your shadow (has all the things you deny/hate about yourself) or is your angel (who can help you with everything, makes you feel blessed). This buddy is somebody who you do exercises with and the idea this person is the perfect person for you to learn with/from.
It’s hard to explain everything that’s done in the workshop, especially because each workshops depends on what the focus people bring in, what the group brings in and what you yourself do during your exercises.
PoV works a lot with family dynamics, past lives, astral and spiritual experiences and your own agency as well as with many spiritual teachers, God and Heaven. It doesn’t shy away from Shadow Work, taking accountability for your experiences and wishing above all to heal.
If you are interested in following such a workshop and want to ask me more questions, please send me message by e-mail or ask me in my practice.