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Dear people,

 

I've already written about how an illness can be an advantage, but today I'm writing about something that can be a great solution to heal: busting your own lies. We all need to bust our own lies, so we can move forward in a healthy way. Living authentically isn't always the easiest and sometimes we delude ourselves instead of facing the truth. So today I'm writing about how to bust your own lies, so you have a better life.


We all lie - but which lies are problematic

 

It's very normal to lie - we all do it. Sometimes those lies are polite fictions so we can smooth social waters, sometimes those lies are a little bit more involved, because we want to escape consequences. It can be hard to accept that we lie, but once we do, we can take better care of what lies we tell and why. I know a lot of people who say that they are very honest, but when we are truly honest, we all need to acknowledge that we lie.


Lies based on what's really going on in our lives are very problematic. If you don't want to share your inner most thoughts and feelings, that's fine. But if you tell a lie about how you are feeling to others, you miss out on comfort, support and love, unless they see you are lying and call you out on it. If you lie to yourself about what you are truly feeling, you can't take charge of the problems, heal your emotional upset or look for solutions.

 

Lying about your own part or responsibilities in problems is also extremly problematic. If you insist it was just 'bad luck' or 'that just happened to you randomly', you are missing out on solving problematic patterns in your life, subconscious self-sabotage or past life pain. While technically it is possible that bad occurrences are just bad luck - if you are always losing jobs, getting into car crashes, having trouble with your friends etc. it's a good idea to take a long hard look in the mirror. Like they say: "If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole." It can be very hard to accept our own part in our problems, but it is necessary for healing, self forgiveness, letting go and moving on.


Conscious lies vs Subconscious lies 

 

A lot of people think they don't lie much, because they are highly unaware of all the lies they are telling. This is very normal, but at the same time, doesn't help in busting your own lies. A few years ago I heard that the most spoken lie is: "I will remember that". Upon reflection, I totally agreed, that I have said that often, while not remember the message later. So now when I hear myself say that, I substitute towards: "Let me write that down so I will remember that". Since I've done this, I definitely had to deal a lot less with things I've forgotten. 


Another common lie is the: "Everything is ok"-lie. If you don't want to share, that's fine, but automatically saying everything is fine, isn't good for us. If you hear yourself do that a lot, take some time to reflect why you don't want to share your life with others. Maybe you need to work on vulnerability, maybe you need to allow support or feel safe with another person. There are many reasons why we tend to automatically say we are good, when we are not. 

 

If you consciously lie, you know you are trying to get away with something or trying to take something. So it's very important to admit to yourself that you are lying. Asking yourself if it's worth the loss of integrity and the fall out if your lie gets discovered. Besides the polite fictions, that we all sometimes use, we do have malicious lies as well. We need to own those, so we can heal. 


Hearing your own lies exercise


  • Take around 5-15 minutes for this exercise
  • Make sure you are comfortable and can't be disturbed by your phone etc.
  • Think of a statement you want to verify
  • For example: I love myself, I am blameless of X, I am doing the best I can, I'm making healthy choices 
  • Gently speak it in the air
  • Listen carefully to your own voice: do you sound strong, confident and convincing? Or does your voice waver, do you sound small etc.
  • Feel your body: are your relaxed and does this statement resonate fully with truth? Or do you feel a blockage somewhere or notice stress?
  • Notice your energy: does this resonate with you or does it sound off?
  • If you notice your statement is a lie - state the opposite and again notice what happens. Is the counter more true? Are both not strong and does it mean you are divided?
  • Ask God/your Guides/Angels/the Universe to place you back into Truth
  • Notice what happens for you and if need me, repeat your statement to hear the difference
  • Do a few statements if you want to, but no more then 10, because this work can really be tiring
  • Gently open your eyes, drink a bit of water and do some grounding 

 

Want to share your experience or give feedback on my exercise? Email me, post a comment here on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.  Want to work more with releasing lies? Check out the True Unity Video Release Self Delusion!

 

 

Dear People,

If keeping balanced was easy - we'd all be completely 100% zen. Instead most of us realize that keeping yourself balanced is a daily task. Sometimes we give too much energy to others. Or we work too hard and forget to play. We might eat too much or exercise a little to often. Yet, when we are balanced, we are happiest, so it's definitely worthwhile to invest in (re)balancing your life. So let's start with some affirmations today.

I write my affirmations in different levels so you can see what resonates with you and what you want to work on. You might start with a lower level that resonates and then move your way up. 
 
Create more self value by listening to the 5 minute Balance Manifestation Meditation on my YouTube Channel.

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

I find the balance between my heart and head
I easily find the balance between my heart and head
I easily balance my heart and head 
My heart and head are perfectly balanced
My heart and head are perfectly balanced at all times

I find the balance between my body and my will
I easily find the balance between my body and my will
I easily balance my body and will
My body and my will are perfectly balanced
My body and my will are perfectly balanced at all times
 
I find the balance between my wants and needs
I easily find the balance between my wants and needs
I easily balance my wants and needs
My wants and needs are perfectly balanced
My wants and needs are perfectly balanced at all times

I balance my emotions
I balance my energy
I balance my time
I balance my attention
I balance my work
I balance my career
I balance my hobby's
I balance my spending
I balance my self
 
I find the balance between giving and receiving
I balance the connection between me and my partner
I balance the connection between my and my kids
I balance the connection between my and my parents
I balance the connection between my and my friends
I balance the connection between me and the other person
 
Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page or watch the past Instagram Live about affirmations. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice or by e-mail.

 

Dear people,

 

A few weeks ago I did my Dutch Column about our Positive Voice, but you can now also find a Creating Joy: Positive Voice video on my YouTube Channel. Many of us know how to easy it is to be critical of our bodies, our behavior and ourselves. Building our Positive Voice means we build self value, self acceptance and self love. Yet it seems many of us don't know how to do that as negative self  talk is so ingrained that positive self talk doesn't feel like an option. So today I'm writing about finding and supporting your Inner Cheerleader to support yourself.


Positive vs Negative messages

 

Research says we need 5-10 positive messages to negate 1 negative message. Yet when we grow up we are surrounded by negative messages. Don't do this - don't do that - you didn't study enough - you didn't eat enough vegetables - you ... fill in the blanks. Our parents, our teachers, our peers and ultimately we ourselves, talk negatively about ourselves. 

 

That's why many of us have a big negative critical voice that is talking to us every single day. It will say things like: "I can't do this/I can't do that", "I'm not smart/beautiful/worthy" etc. etc. Yet, our positive voice should be there to counteract this poison by telling us: "I can give it a shot, it might be easier then I think, I am smart/beautiful/worthy just the way I am.".


If you notice your critical voice sounding like your parent or specific teacher, it's very worthwhile to do some cord cutting and release that energy. We do not need somebody else's judgement clouding our own. We need to decide what we value, not what we have been told to value. 


Reducing your Critical Voice

 

If you are a parent, don't think you need to be positive at all times to your child. Just separate the behavior from the child. Instead of saying: "You are dumb", we need to practice saying "that wasn't a smart thing to do". The person isn't being judged, but the behavior is. 

 

So if you hear yourself saying that to your child or yourself, please try to make an effort to change your language. What we choose to say and how we choose to say it matters. It will take some getting used to,  but it's very worthwhile.

 

Building your inner cheerleader

 

Expect to feel a bit uncomfortable when you first start building your positive voice. We aren't used to giving ourselves a praise, a pep-talk or validation. Yet, it's so important to learn to give yourself positive self talk. You can use compliments you've heard from others about yourself, use affirmations or try talking to yourself as if you are your own best friend. 

 

 Positive Voice exercise:

 

  • Take around 10-20 minutes for this exercise
  • Make sure you are comfortable and can't be disturbed by your phone etc.
  • Ask for Higher Power/Heaven/The Universe/God to return you to a place of self love and self value
  • Gently breathe in this atmosphere 
  • Open yourself up to listening what messages and inspiration is there for you
  • Repeat them out loud
  • Whenever you feel ready - thank Higher Power/Heaven/The Universe/God
  • Gently open your eyes, drink a bit of water and do some grounding 
  • Do what you promised or plan to do it in the agreed upon timeframe

 

Want to share your experience or give feedback on my exercise? Email me, post a comment here on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.  Or post a comment below the YouTube video Positive Voice from my Dutch Column.