Dear people,
Guilt keeps us a prisoner of the past: we can't turn back time to undo what we feel so guilty about. Underlying guilt can create unhealthy behavior as we are seeking punishment for what we feel guilty about or try to compensate for our guilt by self sacrifice. While everybody knows how important forgiveness is, not many people take the time to examine their guilt and their behavior. So let's move past guilt today.
Guilt is a manufactured emotion
When I first heard that guilt was a manufactured emotion I was stunned. Surely that can't be true. Guilt is like any other emotion that just popped up in my life. Once I took some time to examine that, I realized however that it is true. We choose how guilty we feel about our behavior. We can feel extreme guilt over the smallest things: like forgetting somebodies birthday or being 5 minutes late. Or feel no guilt at all for behavior that objectively isn't very good, like cheating a company out of money or hurting another person.
Our beliefs are the deciding factor in how much guilt we feel. If we are able to give ourselves "reasons" for our behavior, we might feel hardly any guilt. If we believe we did something deeply wrong, even if the other person forgives us, we might be consumed by guilt for a long time. So yes, how much guilt you feel is absolutely a choice.
Guilt forming beliefs
Once you know that you choose how guilty you feel, you can see what beliefs create more and more guilt. Beliefs around not being able to make mistakes, not allowing yourself to be human and having to be perfect create guilt. Beliefs around being not good enough and needing to be the hero or the fixer create more guilt. Beliefs about what is an unforgivable mistake or action only create more guilt.
Take some time to think on what you are doing to yourself with those beliefs. Guilt never leads to a better outcome. I highly recommend releasing all guilt forming beliefs as soon as possible.
The two paths of guilt
Generally speaking, there are two ways that make us feel guilty.
The first path is us not doing something or doing something that we see as bad. So this is all about us, what we have decided about ourselves and our behavior. We might be able to hide our own judgement a little bit, but once you feel guilt, there was a judgement involved. If you walk this path, it's important that you practice self-forgiveness, find out where you are self sabotaging and move forward into more self love.
The second path is where we feel we failed somebody else's expectations and that makes us feel guilt tripped. Sometimes people really lay on the guilt thick, but other times they can accept our no, but we still feel guilty. Once somebody else is involved, we can project our anger onto them (they shouldn't have asked) and become resentful. We can also hide into self sacrifice, which we still feel guilty about, because we know we didn't really want to help. If you walk this path, it's important you forgive everybody involved and heal the wound within that made you feel that you owed something to the other person.
Guilt Exercise
Find some time to sit down and really listen to what's going on with your own guilt. I recommend you take at least 30 minutes. However guilt is super uncomfortable, so if you only manage to take 5 minutes, take 5 minutes.
- Close your eyes
- Breathe in and out
- Feel how much guilt you are carrying
- Feel how it's dampening your soul expression
- Feel how it's keeping you from being free
- Feel how it's with holding the power of innocence
- Ask your Guides or Angels to help you release all this guilt
- Set your intention to release as much as you can handle
- Imagine your guilt being removed bit by bit while you gently breathe out
- Let light enter the places formerly clouded by guilt
- Allow that light to show you what wisdom is there for you
- Accept the gifts that now come to light by breathing in gently
- Breath in and out until you feel centered and happy
- Open your eyes
If you want some more help releasing guilt, check out my YouTube video and do the True Unity exercise or ask me for an intake.
Dear People,
Recently a client asked me what the differences are between a boost and a healing session. A smart question, because you can find the personal healing sessions under services on my website and sometimes different types of boost under events. So today I'm talking about the three main differences between them.
Difference 1: Personalized focus
One of the things that is clear to see that a healing session always has a personalized focus. We decide together what you want to work on during your intake. A boost has a focus I've chosen, based on what I feel global energy or month energy is showing me many people need. So a boost doesn't need an intake.
So if you want to make a decision based on a healing session vs a boost, the main question would be: does the focus work for you? If the focus I've chosen is one that you do want to work on or that does resonate as necessary for you, book a boost. If you feel you need something different ask for an intake for a healing session.
Difference 2: Solve a problem or reach a next level
When I have a healing session, often, there are things people want to let go or a problem they want to resolve. As such, mostly there is a clear issue that they want help with. Healing energy takes a much longer time to resolve blockages, due to humans not dealing too well with rapid changes.
With a boost, it's often not a problem that makes people feel that they want some extra help, but a new level that they want to reach. They see that they'd love to have some more growth in their lives and choose to have a growth boost. Results are usually fast and in the first 3 weeks.
If you feel you need more help to reach the next level, due to more blockages, definitely choose a healing session. If you have long standing chronic problems in the focus area, a boost isn't the right way to solve them.
Difference 3: Cost, time and opportunity
Since a boost doesn't need an intake and doesn't need after care at 6 weeks, I can offer it for cheaper than a regular session. I also sometimes offer 25 minute sessions instead of 50 minute sessions, making it an even better deal if you are looking for a small lift upwards or could just use a bunch of positive energy.
Remember that I only offer boost for a set amount of time, so if you do resonate with the focus of the boost, it's best to book it. Once it's gone, it's gone and you will have to book a regular healing session to reach your next level. You will get more personalized care and deeper results, but if that isn't what you want, book your boost as soon as possible.
Have a question for me about my work, me or my techniques? Post a comment on the blog, Facebook Fan Page or talk to me in the practice.
Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).