I meet a lot of people who are afraid of their emotions and suppress them regularly until they explode in anger or in tears. For some people suppressing has become so natural to them, that they feel they have lost touch with their emotions. Common complaints are feeling empty, dissatisfied or even feeling dead. Today I'm writing an exercise to return to your emotions in a safe environment to help process them and see what might have been living deep inside of you.
Sea Exercise
- Make sure you have at least 15 minutes of uninterrupted time
- Seated yourself in a comfortable position or lay down
- Imagine yourself a calm sea floating relaxed in a pool float
- Your float is being carried by your spiritual Helpers, be it Angels, Guides, Spirit Totems, God or whatever forces of good you believe in. They will keep you safe at all times and help you heal, process and cleanse all emotions.
- Allow the sea to become a little bit more stormy and the feelings to start flowing. You might feel wind, rain or waves reaching out towards you. Embrace them and allow feelings to flow. You might feel yourself crying, making sounds or aggression, but just sit with those feelings. The sea will naturally return back towards calm after you processed your feelings
- If you start feeling anxious or overwhelmed, ask for help to return to calmer sea. Don't be afraid to repeat the process a couple of times until you processed your feelings.
- Once you feel calm and aware, notice that there is a little anchor settled against your float. Lift it upwards and you will retrieve a little box.
- In the box are the gifts that have been hiding behind the emotions. It might be awareness, knowledge, lessons learned, but can also be positive gifts like joy, satisfaction or openness.
- Open the box and embrace your gifts
- Thank your helpers and bless yourself and then return by gently opening your eyes, drinking some water and/or eating something.
Recently I had a talk with somebody about confrontations. Many people shy away from what they consider to be confrontations with other people, but also confrontations with themselves. I embrace knowledge, so I'm always on the look out for places where I can grow, even if it initially feels painful. I know that long term, walking around with unhealthy behavior, suppressed feelings and resentment is much worse, then that one painful moment of clarity. So today I talk about some mindset reframing to start to easily deal with confrontations.
Awareness vs Confrontations
It's easy to fall into a defensive trap when we are confronted with things we don't want to acknowledge. It might be a loved one telling us something we don't want to hear, our bodies giving us a signal or consequences that come knocking at our door because we ignored something.
If we fall into the trap of feeling confronted, we can start feeling defensive, guilty, victimized and upset. We might even shoot the messenger and in the end, we have a bigger problem to solve then we had before.
If we instead decide to admit that something painful comes into our awareness, we can choose to be grateful and bless the messenger. We choose to be happy that we have a chance to correct our mistake, learn the lesson and move on into a happier life. We can ask for help when we need it and it will be freely given.
Notice how your thought patterns behave when something painful comes into your awareness. Do you choose to be confronted and create that emotional drama or do you choose to be aware and quickly and effortlessly solve the issue by accepting it, asking for help and learning your lesson.
Sharing yourself vs Confrontations
A second type of confrontation that people tend to feel bad about is, when we have to talk to others about something that isn't right for us. A lot of people will swallow their feelings until they explode or just feel very anxious about talking to the other person.
If you decide to fall into the trap of saying that you are going to confront another person, you will start from a place of anger, attack and anxiousness. On some level we do know it's bad to confront others, because nobody likes to be approached in such a way. We know we are creating more drama and more pain.
Instead, we can choose to decide to share ourselves and our feelings. We want to let the other person know of our experience and ask for a compromise or maybe even an apology. When then come from a place of understanding and bonding. That makes it much easier to listen to what they need and what they were thinking. When we choose to share and bond, the chances are high that the other person is willing to listen and doesn't fall in the trap earlier discussed into this article.
When something goes wrong or somebody goes over your boundaries, notice how your response is, do you choose anger or fear or are you willing to share yourself and find bonding?
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Dear People,
Often we feel guilty accepting the bounty that can come towards us in our flow of Miracles. We worry that we take away from others or that we might have to deal with jealousy or guilt. Affirmations are a wonderful way to keep yourself open to abundance.
I write my affirmations in different levels so you can see what resonates with you and what you want to work on. You might start with a lower level that resonates and then move your way up.
Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).
I deserve to be in the flow of Abundance
I accept the flow of Abundance
I receive the flow of Abundance
I welcome the flow of Abundance
I am open to an Abundance of time
I accept an Abundance of time
I welcome my Abundance of time
I am open to an Abundance of energy
I accept an Abundance of energy
I welcome my Abundance of energy
I am open to an Abundance of love
I accept an Abundance of love
I welcome my Abundance of love
I am open to an Abundance of kindness
I accept an Abundance of kindness
I welcome my Abundance of kindness
I am open to an Abundance of wealth
I accept an Abundance of wealth
I welcome my Abundance of wealth
Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online.