Dear People,
Often our life doesn't go the way we want to and we get to choose: accept what is happening and go with the flow or fight it and build heartbreak, resentment and anger. Acceptance is a miracle force as it keeps us energetic, kind, open and willing. Some people feel that if you accept something, it won't ever change, but for me, the opposite is true. When we accept the reality of what is, we are much more able to create changes. Acceptance is just a first step, which helps us see the truth and open up possibilities.
I
write my affirmations in different levels so you can see what
resonates with you and what you want to work on. You might start with a
lower level that resonates and then move your way up.
Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).
Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).
I am willing to accept my body
I am willing to accept my emotions
I am willing to accept my thoughts
I am willing to accept my circumstances
I am willing to accept my life
I am willing to accept my body's need for rest
I am willing to accept my body's need for relaxation
I am willing to accept my body's need for food
I am willing to accept my body's needs
I accept my body completely
I am willing to accept my anger
I am willing to accept my disappointment
I am willing to accept my frustration
I am willing to accept my pain
I am willing to accept my sadness
I am willing to accept my unkindness
I am willing to accept my envy
I am willing to accept my guilt
I am willing to accept all my emotions
I completely accept my emotions
I am willing to accept my fears
I am willing to accept my childishness
I am willing to accept my anxieties
I am willing to accept my negavitity
I am willing to accept my victimhood
I am willing to accept all my thoughts
I completely accept my thoughts
I am willing to accept my financial situation
I am willing to accept my relationships
I am willing to accept my family
I am willing to accept my job/work situation
I am willing to accept my health
I am willing to accept my home
I am willing to accept all my circumstances
I completely accept my circumstances
Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by email or publicly online.
Dear People,
I've already talked a bit about compatibility when it came to friendships, but compatibility is also an important ingredient in romantic relationships. I've seen a lot of people desperately trying to hold their romantic relationship together with love and effort and then finding out that this isn't working. Compatibility can also change throughout a relationship, which makes it an important pulse on how you are doing as a couple.
Compatibility in goals
This is the type of compatibility a lot of people will warn each other about. Make sure you both figure out if you want kids is a frequent topic in certain age categories. If you want very different things with your life, that's just a problem waiting to happen. Some goals you can compromise on, but others you can not. You can't have half a child.
Goals do tend to change though - what we find important in our 20ies is not the same as in our 30ies or 40ies. By talking regularly about our goals, we can keep our relationship healthy. A partner who helps you reach your goals is worth their weight in gold. If goals are incompatible, partners will naturally start to drift apart or the relationship will blow up when an important goal won't be reached.
Compatibility in values
Values are different from goals in the fact that they usually don't change much. People who find honesty important will continue to do so. People who find family life important will continue to invest time in their families. Often it's hard to see what our values are until we have a confrontation with a mismatch in values. That's because values feel natural to us, so we never quite think of how others might perceive this.
Talking through situations, ethics or your past together will help show each other what you value in your life and how you like to live it. It helps to show each other what kind of commitment you are looking for, what your perfect relationships wold look like. When values are compatible, the relationship will feel natural and easy, if values are very incompatible, partners will be judgemental, angry and frustrated with each other.
Compatibility in communication
A lot of people know communication is key in relationships, but seem to think that there is a way to create communication even if there is no compatibility. While it's true that we can improve our communication, learn about our partners communication style and try to match, communication styles can be incompatible. This can happen due to old trauma, but also just due to how people like to talk to each other.
If the communication is incompatible, both partners will continue to feel misunderstood and problems in the relationship won't be resolved. It's especially difficult if goals and values are compatible, but the communication is not.
Other forms of compatibility
There are of course other forms of compatibility which are nice to have in your relationship. Two night owls have more fun and ease then a night owl and an early bird. Compatibility in lifestyle makes it's easier to create something together, but when people ask me what they truly need to make a relationship work, I talk about the basics of a strong, growing and healthy relationship: love, trust, values, goals, communication.
Want to ask how compatible your relationship is or know more about how to evaluate your compatibility with a prospective partner? Ask me for a relationship Reading or talk to me in the practice.
Dear People,
The world being what it is at the moment - a global pandemic, unrest in several countries etc. etc. it's hard to see the force of good at work in the world. It's also much harder to be a force of good, when you feel overwhelmed, angry or burned out. So today, I made some affirmations to help with that.
I write my affirmations in different levels so you can see what resonates with you and what you want to work on. You might start with a lower level that resonates and then move your way up.
Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).
I see the force of good in the world
I see the force of good in all things
I see the force of good in my life
I see the force of good in myself.
I feel the force of good in the world
I feel the force of good in all things
I feel the force of good in my life
I feel the force of good in myself.
I embrace the force of good in the world
I embrace the force of good in all things
I embrace the force of good in my life
I embrace the force of good in myself
I build the force of good in the world
I build the force of good in all things
I build the force of good in my life
I build the force of good in myself
I am a force of good in the world
I am a force of good in all things
I am a force of good in my life
Have an affirmation you want to share? Don't hesitate to post it in a comment on the blog or on the Facebook Fan Page. You can also share your affirmation stories in the practice, by e-mail or publicly online.