In our daily lives we all have annoyances, some big and some small. Mostly, we are able to process these because we have acceptance, forgiveness and wisdom. Sometimes however annoyances can stay stuck in our mind, our heart, our body or even our energy field. Then they can grow towards resentment, frustration or other more difficult energies to process.
So today, I'm sharing an exercise about how to get rid of those small annoyances by giving yourself a combination of venting time, reflection time and laughter. This exercise is best done with two people, but can also be done alone. If you do it alone, I recommend you either do it before a mirror or you choose to actively move position (like moving seats or standing space) to get the most of this exercise.
Releasing Annoyances Exercise
- Person 1: admits the annoyance out loud
- Person 2: acknowledges and accept the annoyance
- Swap sides after Person 1 is done
Now, this sounds extremely simple, but it's very important that the person listening actively decides to join in the energy of the first person. It's very hard not to judge the annoyance (Oh, you are being silly, childish, stupid, vengeful etc.) or to offer up solutions.
If this is done well, person 1 will feel heard, understood and validated. Person 1 might even feel how the energy of the annoyance changes, just because the annoyance is shared and validated. The healing power of active listening compared to receive advice or a solution is quite beautiful.
Person 2 might feel judgements come up that they can choose to release. Releasing your judgements on another also frees you. If you judge an annoyance as 'childish', that means you will judge yourself too if you feel that way about something or someone.
Besides freeing themselves of judgements, person 2 can feel the struggle to 'want to help' come up for release as well. Releasing the need to play the hero/be the helper/find the solution, brings a sense of peace to both parties. We are only talking about small annoyances after all, so why do they need to be solved?
Some examples to acknowledge and accept the annoyance for Person 2:
- "Oh that sucks"
- "That's irritating"
- "That's sad"
- "You are right that's <insert feeling person 1 shared>"
- "I share in your <insert feeling person 1 shared>
- "I hear you"
Dear People,
When people want to order a Reading I always have a small intake to see what answers they are looking for. Recently somebody asked me what the limits are and why I need to do an intake instead of just having a clever set of rules people can follow. So, time to explain some more about how my gift works.
How I see the future in general
In general, I see the future as follows: a stream such as a river (which can split, depending on your choices) and stones (which you will certainly encounter as the river flows over it). As I look further, it is more difficult to give very clear predictions, because depending on the choices you have made, your future may change. If the predictive part also talks about other people, it’s even harder to stay accurate, as they also have choices to make. Just as a weather forecast over several days the first few days is often more accurate than the last few days.
Time Limit
The closer an event is, the easier it is to predict. I can already see a lot of the energy flowing into something or not. I can see what kind of energy there is and what it is doing. The further along I look, usually the fuzzier it becomes.
Examples:
- A Reading about love/career/family opportunities will have a higher accuracy if it's about the next 2 months, instead of the next year, 5 years, decade etc.
- A Reading about an event in the next 2 months will have a higher accuracy if it's within the next 2 months, instead of next year, 5 years, decade etc.
- A Reading about your health will have a higher accuracy if it's about the next 2 months, instead of the next year, 5 years, decade etc.
If you are doing a Reading about choices, I always check multiple paths. As such I will see the pro's and the con's for all choices available. Sometimes people there is only one choice, but that's never true, as there is also the choice not to do something/to wait.
However, if a Reading is done about something with multiple choices in between, then it becomes less accurate. It means that for the end result to happen, all choices have to be made a certain way.
Examples:
- After a few dates, a Reading about long term relationship potential is more accurate then one where you check the time line for marriage
- After working in a position for a few months, a Reading about your possibilities for promotion is more accurate then one where you check if you can be CEO/CFO etc.
I almost never read about other people (see my Ethics), because I strongly believe in privacy. There are some exceptions, so that's why it's important to talk about this in an intake. The other people limit is that when I predict something that has more people involved, it almost always impacts the accuracy.
Examples:
- A Reading about possible job chances is less accurate if no offer has been made, since there can be many people applying/choosing to apply or not
- A Reading about buying a house is more accurate if there is just one person bidding, instead of several people
Even with these limits, I can still sometimes predict things that are far in the future, involve many people and seem to imply many choices. For me, that's obviously then a rock, a soul lesson that you will encounter, but I don't always know that in advance. That's why an intake is necessary.
Some examples include:
- Predicting somebody would have a child (far off, with a choice, limited people involved)
- Predicting somebody would not work in the field she was studying for, but would be offered a job with teens (months off, with a choice, many people involved)
- Predicting somebody would find their dream car (very small time window 2/3 days, with lots of choices, many people involved)
- Predicting somebody would be happy with the result of their court case (very long time window, lots of choices, many people involved)
I'm happy to embrace 2020; a new year, new opportunities and a year filled with joy. I have some big plans on a personal level, but also for my business. A lot of people are filled with fear due to the changes in our world at the moment, but I always keep an eye out for the helpers. I believe in the people willing to make a difference. So let me talk to you a bit about my plans for 2020.
Planning
Like every year, I did a Year Reading to best see which months are best suited for plans that I have made and to see what kind of surprises the year has in store for me. Usually the energy of the year is a mix, but sometimes I receive a lot of happy energetic months in a row or have some warnings that help me navigate a difficult streak. I was looking specifically for months that matched some of my plans or expectations of events. So far, I heard that one might be correct, which is always gratifying. A wedding invitation is in the month I predicted.
Besides the Reading, I also filled in the Year Compass. Last year I did it for the first time, so it was quite fun to see what I've managed to accomplish from the 2019 session, but also what things have changed. I can highly recommend doing this. It's lots of fun to relive the highlights of 2019 and to choose what you want for 2020.
Of course I also always have some New Years Resolutions, that I check back on almost every month. As many of my clients know, I love to track and measure progress. I'm guessing it's my engineering side.
Plan
Having some extra information always helps me plan and in the beginning of the year (or end of December), I always set out some guidelines for myself. Plans can change, so they are definitely not set into stone, but give a good idea what I want to accomplish.
- A global year plan for group activities: what kind of workshops do I want to offer/theme's etc.
- A global year plan for PR - when will I be in the paper/on the radio/etc. and what do I want to communicate
- A global year plan for projects
The second project is to have the new website up and running. And other things in the pipeline this year are the new group activities as well as some promotional work and work abroad.
If you have something you think I should really do for 2020 or if you want some help in your own planning or plans, don't hesitate to contact me. Post a comment on the blog, Facebook Fan Page or shoot me an e-mail.