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Dear people,

September is almost over and a lot of people are back to work and study, so time for a blog post on how to remember your lessons. Even if you aren't studying, remember your life sessions is a vital way to move forward wiser and better prepared. Nothing is more annoying then making the same mistake again. In Dutch we have a saying about a donkey and a stone, but in English the saying is: "a fox is not taken twice in the same snare." So let's talk about remembering your lessons!

Connect your lessons to a memory

If it's a life lesson, you would probably remember when you learnt it. The people you were with or the situation you were in. If you keep this memory alive, you will keep the lesson alive as well. You can return to it several times and making it a core memory. 

When you are studying something, you will only have memories of you in the classroom or you studying from a book. Even so, you might connect your lessons you are learning to a memory in your life. For example: if you are studying history about wars, you might have similar conflicts in your life. Even if the situation is not 100% similar, it will help you remember. 

Create a story

Don't have a good memory to connect to? You can also make a story. Stories are wonderful mnemonic devices, which is why they have been used all through the ages. Before writing things down, oral history or story telling, was the absolute best way to remember what had happened. 

So if you are trying to keep something alive in your brain, create a story about it. Even if you have really boring mathematical formula or grammatical rules, creating a story about it is worthwhile. Sometimes people have done it already, so if you google you might find them premade, but doing the work yourself helps even more. A personal story sticks better in your memory.

I often create stories for my life lessons, not only because it helps me remember, but also because it helps me teach. Teaching stories are a time honored tradition because it's easier to remember them and to apply their lessons. You might have made some already without even realizing it or have passed down teaching stories from your parents. 

Crafting a good story is wonderful and I highly recommend it. One of my favorite

Write it down

In today's world of computers it can be hard to write things down, but actually using a pen or pencil does help your brain remember better. That's why I still carry a paper planner as well as having a bullet journal. Writing things down is a great help in remembering things even if you throw away the paper later. An easy way to notice that is when you write a shopping list, even if if you forget it at home, you remember more of what you needed then if you didn't do it. 

I personally don't like that paper isn't searchable, so often, I also digitize things for myself. I still notice that I retain more when I write it down first though. So all my prep work for clients always start as paper notes.  

Want to share your favorite ways of remembering lessons? I'd love to hear from you in the comments, or you can email me or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.

We all can use some passion, some zest and enthusiasm in our lives. Passion helps us to prioritize what matters to us, gives us heaps of energy and allows us to be vibrantly alive. For some people passion runs fast and furious, while other people need more to start feeling their passion. 

Regardless on where you are at in your passion journey, passion always helps smooth the way. So that's why today I'm writing affirmations on passion. Allow yourself to enjoy the ride that is your life.

Dear people,

I've already wrote about grounding and cleansing, both very basic but important healing tools when you feel something is amiss in your energy flow, energy body or life. Grounding helps you stay connected to your body and the now and doing it regularly helps you stay vibrant and alive. Cleansing helps release old energy and outside influences, so doing that regularly means that you can easily process what happens to you. Another very important tool is centering, which is the art of being fully within yourself. 

When do you need centering?

We all have things that can knock us off center: negative things like loss, trauma or burnout, but positive emotional events like promotion, weddings, pregnancy also count. Sometimes our lives change drastically and we feel like we don't know who we are anymore. This is when we desperately need centering. When we are off center we often feel increased stress, despair or anxious feelings and can create negative outcomes due to bad decision making. A decision based on fear, even when getting great results, always feels off. 

Rarely, we can drift off center, due to being very busy with others or having very little free time. Bit by bit we forget who we are, lose hobbies, our values and of course connection with ourselves. Sometimes people find this out after the end of relationship or during a holiday when they finally have time to reflect. This kind of drift can have serious negative consequences, because once we are centered again, a lot of our life will feel like it no longer fits. 

If you don't center yourself, you could experience illness to help you recenter, because once we can't be busy with our day to day and are stuck in bed, we have to spend the time to rest and reflect.  

I recommend you regularly center yourself to make sure you aren't experiencing drift and are able to deal with the up and downs of life. I usually center every week, unless there are massive changes or I'm in a very emotional situation, in which case I will do it more often. 

How do you center yourself?

There are many different ways in which we can center ourselves. Some are personal, they remind you of your own center, while others are common tips that help you find space, time and reflection. Depending on what knocked you out of your center, some centering tools are more appropriate then others. 

To give you a good idea on what can help, I've split different centering tools based on what caused the situation of being off center, but for the best results, just check what calls out to you. Often, we are subconsciously looking to center ourselves.

Centering tools after drifting

If you are off center due to drift, so you feel like your life doesn't fit, feel unfilled or struggle with meaninglessness, here are some good tools:

• Any type of self reflection (journaling, talking with friends, Dream work etc.)
  
• Any type of planning for goals/hopes (setting a schedule, making appointments etc.)
  
• Any type of self knowledge work (meditation, Dream work, Guidance from Guides etc.)
  
• Do the Interview Yourself-exercise
• Do the Taking Charge of Changes - exercise
• Use the True Unity videos on my YouTube channel like for example Releasing despair, Meaninglessness or Breaking Free from a Rut.
  

Centering tools after drastic changes

If you feel off center due to drastic changes in your life, it matters of course if those are positive or negative, but most tools that help release or process emotions will help regardless of what those emotions are. So here are some good tools after drastic changes:

• Any type of emotional expression (writing a letter, talking with friends, creative pursuits etc.)
• Any type of emotional processing (EFT, cleansing in combination with other exercises etc.) 
• Anything that increases Positive Flow (Affirmations, Creating Joy Videos etc.)
  
• Reconnecting with your body (exercise, yoga, hand on stomach/heart)
• Reconnecting with a positive habit/ritual
  
• Taking the time to rest 
• Taking the time to reflect (see tools above)
  

Personal centering tools

Depending on who you are and what you need, you might find yourself centered in different ways. Sometimes I ask people to imagine what their place of Power looks like, their own Inner Strength. For some people it's a mountain, while others see a meadow or an object or color. Often, those are places or activities, that help us center. While it's not always possible to go to the mountains or do an activity,  you can watch movies, look at photos or bring an object to get in touch with that energy. 

For some people being alone might help you center, because you are away from people and can focus on yourself. While other people feel centered around friends, family or loved ones, because those people remind them who they are and surround them with love. 

Spending some time to get to know your own centering activities/places or objects is really useful. I highly recommend finding and creating your own centering rituals or tools.

Do you want to share your experiences with centering? You can email me, post a comment on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.