With so much going on in the world, it's been a very busy time for me. Even so, I'd like to write about sensing the threshold today, as I feel a lot of people are noticing signs of transition in their lives. When we speak about transition, we know that this is a journey, a time span, but usually we only receive the peace and gratitude when the transition is completely over and the goal has been reached. However, I find it very important to find that relaxation within a transition. The waves are always moving, so it pays off to feel at peace with that movement.
Start of a transition
Often, people are quite unclear on when a transition has started in their lives. If you are looking for a transition in your love life, did it start when you start looking for a partner, when you were dating, when you fell in love? Most transitions don't have clear start times, but there are phases during the start of a transition that can help you pinpoint what is going on and what transition is happening.
Almost always a transition starts at a Spiritual Level: feelings of dissatisfaction, wanting a new challenge/the next step, missing excitement, feeling less alive and getting signs that you need to make changes. Not everybody is aware of this level, most people will rationalize these feelings and signs away causing the transition to move downwards.
Now the transition will reach the Mind Level as well: we start worrying, thinking or analyzing. We find ourselves with an idea or a situation that becomes stuck in our mind. Like a stone in our shoe, we keep coming back to it. Time to make changes, but again, some people will rationalize these thoughts away.
So if we don't take appropriate steps to transition, it will reach the Emotional Level. Now the feelings of dissatisfaction will grow. We will feel exhausted, upset and irritable. We struggle with meaninglessness, feeling unhappier and out of sorts.Again, some people will rationalize these feelings, on top of the already existing thoughts and signs, away.
Then, it will reach the Physical Level. Almost always people will start getting small health complaints: tiredness, soreness, aches and upsets. If we keep struggling against the tide of transition, the health problems will become worse.
As a Psychic, I keep myself tuned into my Spiritual Level as much as possible. I ask to be a divine tool as a miracle worker/light bringer. I listen to what's needed for myself and others. I often pray and meditate. As such, I have easier transitions in my life and less general upset.
Sensing the threshold
Embracing the transition doesn't mean that we don't struggle a bit. This mostly happens because people want a transition to be over faster (so they can get to the goal) or they don't see any improvements yet (so they want to move faster).
Just like it's darkest before dawn, a transition is often working quietly until the situation has changed completely. When we continue to put in the energy, thoughts, prayers and dedication, we will transition to our next phases. So, if you are impatient, invest in gratitude and dedication.
If you listen quietly though and meditate, you might already sense the threshold to your new level. As such, that's a great way of keeping yourself motivated. As a Psychic, I often get forewarned about big transitions (moving house, marriage etc.) and I will do Year Readings to see when I have thresholds hidden in my year. I highly recommend taking the time to do the same or ordering a Reading.
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When times are hard, for ourselves or for our loved one's it's important to spread some joy. Even if you aren't in the mood for joy, joy is so contagious that when you try to spread it, your mood uplifts too. Some of us are naturally optimistic and upbeat, but even if you feel you aren't, it's always worthwhile to spread joy.
Reflection exercise
Before giving some tips to spread joy, it's important to do some reflection on what specifically brings you and your loved ones joy. There are so many ways to spread joy, but not all are received equally and not all will be as fun for you either.
Questions about your ways of spreading joy:
- What skills can I share to spread joy?
- What hobby's/passions can I share?
- What knowledge can I share?
- What gifts can I share?
- What do I love to share?
- What type of helping makes me happy?
- What enlivens me?
Questions about others:
- What help do my loved ones need?
- What could I do to make their lives easier?
- What gifts do my loved ones enjoy?
- What are my loved ones passions?
- What are my loved ones favorite past times?
Ways of spreading joy
There are many ways to spread joy, some simple and some complex, but these are some of my favorite ways:
- Smile at everybody you meet that day
- Bring a good mood to a difficult meeting
- Make or bring coffee or tea for everybody
- Share a (home baked) gift together
- Share a comic, joke or funny video with somebody who needs it
- Write a sweet note or leave a sweet voicemail
- Draw a quick cute doodle
- Bring Gerbera Flowers and share them around
- Have a pillow fight
A lot more of us are working from home at the moment and I've heard a lot of people struggling with keeping a healthy routine. It's hard when all of a sudden things are so different in our daily lives and we are juggling many responsibilities. It's natural to feel overwhelmed and to struggle, especially as this situation is bound to continue for a long time. So today I'm writing about some common pitfalls in working from home that are causing people to overwork.
The three main ways that people are overworking themselves when working from home are:
- Compensating for distractions by working longer
- Compensating for an unproductive day by working longer
- Working longer by forgetting to take breaks
Distractions when working from home
When we work from home a lot of people are annoyed about the many distractions that they have (children, private phone calls, spouses etc.) compared to working from the office. They imagine that they would have completed so much more work if only...
We tend to forget that when we work at the office, we do have distractions as well, just different distractions. Outside distractions like a colleague asking for help, having a little chat with a coworker or client, a question from your boss etc. Or inside distractions like quickly checking your private e-mail, making a small phone call or checking in on social media.
When working from home, many people feel guilty when they have to step away from work, but remember: distractions exist in both situations. You don't have to make up for your distractions by working more hours. If your colleagues do this and you get work mails after your normal work hours, let it sit for the next day if at all possible. Many people work too many hours, instead of not enough hours when working from home, even when it feels you 'hardly worked'.
Having an unproductive day
Sometimes things just don't get done. When we have an unproductive day at the office - this is where it stays. It might have been unproductive due to too many meetings, no focus, no inspiration or many other things. It sucks, we move on. Tomorrow is another day.
However when people work from home and they have an unproductive day - they tend to decide to work longer. They feel that for some reason they have to make it a productive day or compensate for not finishing a project. They often work a lot more hours and start the next day exhausted. There is no reason to compensate for an unproductive day when working from home, because we all have them. End your work day - tomorrow is another day.
Taking breaks
Working from the office there are many natural breaks due to the outside distractions, but also since most of us work in office where we have natural longer walks. The walks to the coffee machine, the toilet or the lunch room are much longer then at home. When you work from your own kitchen table or office, we tend to bring in all our stuff so we won't be distracted, but that also means we lose our natural breaks.
It's paramount to take breaks when working from home even though it might feel very unnatural in the beginning. Nobody knows how much break time we usually have at the office, but taking 5-10 minutes every other hour is a good way to start taking breaks. If you feel better, keep them at this level, if you keep feeling unfocused/stressed, increase your breaks. If you feel you were just in the zone, don't worry, I'm pretty sure you already turned off your break alarm and continued working.
Creating a healthy routine
My rules for creating a healthy routine:
My rules for creating a healthy routine:
- Have a set start time and end time
- Take enough breaks - find your sweet spot
- If you don't compensate for it when working from the office - don't compensate for it when working from home
- Expect some things to move faster and more productive (less distractions) and others to move slower (no help from colleagues).
- Make your work environment clean, nice and uplifting
It's vital that to keep rule 3 going strong. If your mom called you at work for 20 minutes, do you work 20 minutes longer? No? Don't do it at home if your kid needs you for 20 minutes. If you are 10 minutes late, do you work 10 minutes longer? No? Then ok, you missed your start time, but that can happen.
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