I didn't have much questions to ask this summer, because I had a busier summer then usual so that always cuts down on my reflection time. However, I did want to do another evaluation Reading so I chose the Water Crystal Oracle. I almost never use this Oracle with Questions. Instead I use it to help release emotions or blockages, bring some positivity and sometimes just to enjoy.
I can certainly see these cards vibrate within Hart en Ziel and me. I do the work I do with a lot of Reverence. Often people tell me how lucky and blessed I must be to be able to do this kind of work. Naturally, I do study and practice and having your own company is a lot of work on the administration and promotion side, but I can't deny I feel incredibly blessed. It's wonderful to feel the healing energy in my practice, through my body and hands and within my clients energy field. I love being able to help with the road ahead and getting the information my clients need. I know that I am only the facilitator and so I feel deep reverence for what some people call The Universe, The Universal Energy, A Higher Power, and I simply call God. I truly believe that as long as you recognize the reverence and wonder it will be impossible to have a bloated ego!
Self Love is another important pillar of my work. It's important for me that clients feel self empowered, feel like I help them by telling them about choices and consequences so they stay in charge. Many clients report being kinder to themselves and loving themselves more during and after treatment. Also, it's important that I have enough self love to protect my own boundaries. A lot of people who have strong Helper tendencies forget their own lives and burn out and I do not want to be one of them. Sometimes that means I have to disappoint a client, sometimes it means I have to take a little break or recharge myself. I receive a lot of energy from the work I do, but I do not have unlimited time.
Love for Humanity is something I thought about just this weekend when I went to a free Music Festival (Zomerterras in Vlaardingen). There was a band there that said they dedicated the following song to everybody who is making a positive difference in the world. I do feel I'm making a positive difference in the world by aiding people to become their true selves, by allowing more positivity and love to flow and to release negativity. I am still working (although not as diligently as I would like) on my book, so I can reach even more people.
Automatic Nerve Hado: Affection is one of the 12 Healing Cards in this Deck. The idea is that some of our emotions are tied to organs and that of course links closely to EFT which I also work with, which theory is that our emotions can become locked within our body and energy field. Affection is one that I truly feel for all of my clients and which makes it so natural to want the best for them. I also know many clients feel affection for me and want me to succeed. I hope to find affection to be growing increasingly in my practice!
Do you recognize these things in me and my practice or have a story to share? Let me know in the comments or on Facebook!
Responsibility is often a theme in the healing I do for myself and others. Sometimes people take too little responsibility and they do not want to take charge of their healing, sometimes people take on too much responsibility and then do not have the energy to heal themselves or live their lives.
When I speak about too much responsibility in my personal life I always say: "That's not my dog", a line that for me comes from the movie Pink Panther. I have embedded the video below:
At first glance this situation is funny, because of the miscommunication. If he had asked: "Does this dog bite", he would have gotten a truthful answer. However, looking deeper for me, this funny scene is about the fact that it's not his dog, so therefore he can't give good answer as to if it would bite or not.
So, whenever in my life I have things going on that are not my responsibility, that I can't control or that simply shouldn't be solved by me, I usually respond by: "Not my dog". It is also American Slang, although I don't know if it finds it's origin in the movie or not.
By saying "Not my dog" I make it funny and light hearted for me. Usually things that we want to take responsibility for: our parents health, our partners well being, our children's happiness are heavy and even though we know we aren't supposed to carry it, we sometimes still try. We want to help so badly and it hurts to see them suffer.
So now, when I see somebody has a problem, I reaffirm that it's not mine (unless it's a problem in a relationship they have with me). I say "Not my Dog", smile and let it go. I reaffirm that it's theirs to deal with and that their path will have challenges just like mine. I use humor to lighten the load for myself.
Sometimes however, that's not enough and I find myself carrying burdens that aren't mine. Usually you can easily check this in the evening. Do you feel particularly tired, but didn't do anything for yourself or any strenuous activity? Are you thinking in bed on issues that you need to resolve or things you need to tell others, that frankly, are not your dog? Do you feel your shoulders or neck hurting? If so, I usually do a cord cutting exercise or an exercise to return my energy to myself.
Do you have something that is 'not your dog' but find yourself spending energy on anyway? Share you story in the comments or on Facebook!
During our life we all form bonds continuously. Bonds with people, places and even companies and products. Most of these bonds are healthy ones, as we feel loved in return by our spouses, enjoy our homes, our job and our favorite foods. Some of these bonds are not and that is what this blog post is about.
Analyzing unhealthy bonds
I can easily see the bonds that are between people and use this in my work as a Psychic to help heal and balance bonds. For me those bonds are visible in the energy field and based on where they exists (head to head, heart to heart, belly area etc.) and how they look (strained overburdened etc.) I can see how healthy they are and what is missing/incorrect.
If you do not feel that you can check up on these bonds intuitively, looking at the results of these bonds is an easy solution to find what is going on.
Unhealthy bonds have the following consequences:
- After contact with that person, place, company or product you feel drained, guilty, upset for a long time or experience other negative emotions
- After contact with that person, place, company or product you feel physical upheaval, stomach aches, head aches or other physical complaints
- After contact with that person, place, company or product you are overly worried, anxious, remunerating or other mental complaints
Do I need to cut my unhealthy bonds?
People often worry that they have to cut all contact when a bond is unhealthy. I do not recommend doing that every time, because that way we will never learn. We are responsible for half of every bond, so it becomes toxic or unhealthy we have the opportunity to learn and grow and balance that bond in a better way.
I only recommend cutting bonds if there is a danger to your life or your well being, because you shouldn't risk that for anything or anybody. Or if you have tried to balance the bond, but it isn't working.
What can I do to achieve balance in my bonds with others?
The perfect way is of course seeing why there is an upset and solving that root issue. If you solve it on your end, the bond will balance itself out. Often people are surprised that their spouse, parent, child or friend acts differently. While it's madness to expect things to change if you do the same thing over and over, a small change can have large results. If you can't seem to find the root cause rationally tune into your intuition or ask for a reading on this issue.
Sometimes however people will also carry old bonds when the people, places, companies or products involved are no longer in their lives. Like a loyalty to an old company that went bankrupt disrupting your current job or a trauma concerning a parents disrupting your own parenting. In that case, it's smart to just 'cut the cord' and release the past. There are many cord cutting exercises online. Some focus on asking for help while others use visualizations to release those bonds.
I personally choose a method that fits me and the occasion. I have cut cords by writing letters and then burning them. I have asked Archangel Michael to cut some cords for me. I have done many visualizations to cut cords and urge people to find what works for them or ask me for an exercise that they can use.
Want to know more about Energetic Bonds and do some cord cutting with me? Check out my Instagram Live: Energetic Bonds & Cord Cutting or try out any of the True Unity Videos on Cord Cutting like: Release General Unhealthy Bonds, Release Unhealthy Romantic Bonds, Release Unhealthy Bonds with our Parents or Release Unhealthy Friendship Bonds.
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