Dear people,
We all deal with resistance every single day. We all have different things that we resist. Maybe it's coming out of bed, maybe it's doing your dishes, maybe it's choosing the better food option, maybe it's trying for another job etc. etc. It's normal to feel some resistance, but sometimes people struggle with large resistance rooted in trauma, past lives, family karma or other chronic issues. If we don't make a commitment to solve it, the resistance will lead to self-sabotage, procrastination and frustration. So today, let's talk about healing resistance.
Reducing Daily Resistance
We all have things we dislike, so it's natural to be resistant to doing them. Since everybody is different, we all resist different things. The end result of resistance is easily spotted: the task doesn't get done. This type of small resistance can be easily solved by rewards or improving the task.
I always think it's funny that we know rewards work as positive reinforcement, but most adults don't reward themselves. Whatever the task that you usually resist is, it's a good idea to reward yourself. Make sure however that the reward isn't a self sabotaging one. For example: don't reward a daily task with food if you don't want to gain weight. It's even better if you can reward yourself with things you want to add into your routine. So if you want to be more mindful, you can reward yourself with a 5 minute meditation, a 15 minute break or a gratitude exercise.
Another good way to reduce daily resistance is to make the tasks that you are resisting more fun. A lot of us don't like doing the daily grind of housework, but adding in music, your favorite audio book or some TV is a great way to get yourself happier while doing your task. It might not be as efficient, but it does get done!
Acknowledging Deeper Resistance
One of the main reasons deeper resistance doesn't get resolved is because people don't acknowledge it. They will only look at the surface: I'm saying that I want to quite smoking, lose weight, clean up my attic, find a new partner, so that must mean I'm working towards it. Yet, when we take the time to reflect, we'd see that our behavior doesn't line up with our talk.
Sometimes the resistance is in the subconscious so that people seem to have really good reasons on why they aren't making progress. They were busy, life got in the way, they were stressed etc. etc. Yet, examining those reasons often shows that they are just excuses. If we really wanted, we could have taken steps forward.
So it's a good idea to reflect regularly on if you are meeting your goals or not. By seeing why you aren't moving forward you can find out what type of resistance you are experiencing and heal it. It pays off to regularly check out what or who you are resisting. I always double check when I have to reschedule a task to see if I'm procrastinating, if I prioritized correctly and if I notice any resistance.
Healing Deeper Resistance
Once we know deeper resistance is there, it's time to heal it. It's important to figure out where the resistance is coming from and to step into willingness. Besides this exercise, you can also use the True Unity Video: Releasing Resistance or search my Channel for videos to heal specific resistance types like Fear of the Next Step, Fear of Rejection, Procrastination and others.
Exercise: Healing Resistance
- Take around 15-20 minutes for this exercise
- Grab a pen/pencil and a piece of paper
- Write down all your resistance thoughts and thought patterns
- If you have trouble accessing them use prompts like: I resist doing X, because, I'm afraid to do X, because, I won't do X, because or I feel resistance, because
- Once you have all resistance written down, take some time to feel it in your body and resonate with the parts of you who are angry, resentful, frustrated, fearful etc.
- Ask for help from God, Higher Power, the Universe etc. to come to a state of willingness / surrender
- Ask to have all parts integrated so your resistance disappears and you feel wholly committed
- Test your commitment by write down what you want to do and setting an alarm to reflect on if it happened
- Repeat this exercise as much as you want to discover new sources of resistance.
- Don't forget to drink a bit of water and do some grounding
If you want to share your experience with resistance or my exercises, you can email me, post a comment here on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram. If you want to heal your resistance with me, ask me for a free intake!
Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).
Dear People,
I always do an intake to discuss which healing focus I would recommend. A focus is always positive: it's where we want to go and what energy we'd like to see. Sometimes it's very clear what the focus should be, but sometimes I offer multiple options. Today I want to talk about how I choose a healing focus and why I sometimes offer choices.
Broad vs narrow focus
There is no good or bad, but since a session has a healing limit, it's interesting to talk about what difference a healing focus can make. A lot of people think that the time limit is what defines how much can be healed, but the actual limits is how much my clients energy system can handle. So what does it mean to choose a broad or a narrow focus?
I will be using an example to highlight the benefits and drawbacks.
For example: a client comes to me for a physical problem. Underlying the problem where some old child hood patterns, so we could choose Inner Child as a focus, to heal those and expect physical relief, more energy, more creativity and passion and a bit of wonder. During the session, other Inner Child wounds might pop up, allowing for other area's of her life to also be healed. Since this focus is broader than only the problem, that means that were have a wider range of results.
We could also have chosen a focus based on the problem only, like for example "Healed Problem". We might have found other underlying causes if those existed besides the childhood patterns, but we wouldn't have had extra results. So in this case, the focus is more narrow, the results are more narrow, but, it's likelier we would clear the problem in one session if healing only the childhood problems wasn't enough to change the energy sufficiently.
The broader the focus is, the more likely it is you'd get additional benefits, but also the likelier it is that we can't heal deeply enough to solve the problem completely. Sometimes a problem is just tied to one thing only, but sometimes it's a web of different issues that all need to be healed.
Based on our intake, I tend to choose a focus that has a large chance (70% and up) to resolve the initial problem people asked me to help heal. That means it's rare for me to need a second session. Sometimes I do in case of additional resistance popping up, sometimes our session got too broad anyway during the healing (when painful things pop up I won't shy away from healing them, even if we didn't discuss it in the intake) and even more rarely sometimes the energy body of the client can't handle too much healing at once.
Let me define your focus
A lot of times people want to tell me what to heal, but we don't always know what's really the underlying cause or causes. I use my gifts to find out what they are. Sometimes they resonate a lot with people during the intake, sometimes they are surprised.
Surprises tend to come when the main issue is in a past life, family pattern or subconscious behavior. Sometimes that means people have already healed on the mental or emotional levels and are stuck in deeper layers, sometimes it means that they just aren't aware of what also is influencing their behavior.
So don't worry if you don't know if you need a Healing or a Reading or if you don't know how to resolve things. That's my job. And why I schedule time to discuss things with you during an intake. I prepare all my intakes so I can listen to what's going on and notice how your energy field is behaving.
Why there is sometimes a choice
Problems can almost always be solved in different ways. I tend to choose the broadest focus that still has high likelihood to have additional benefits, but sometimes I can see two clear ways forward. For example, I had a client who was interested in building her own business.
One focus would be: flourishing <business name>, in which case the expected results would be more clients, more money and more joy. It would focus on blockage moving forward, choices to be made in the near future and how to navigate the business for the coming months.
However, this client was also a bit of a workaholic and there were some issues with balancing work load, making sure healthy boundaries were set and some other more personal issues. So the other focus could be: balance. In which case, the expected results would be: better work/life balance, better health and more joy. It would focus mainly on personal growth and how to be the best business owner to yourself and your clients. This would in turn, also lead to more clients and more money, but slower compared to the first path.
Neither focus would be wrong, but the expected results would differ, due to where we'd put the emphasis on healing. Would it be based on growing the business or growing yourself. Would be it based on success or based on balance. It's up to the client what is the right path forward, but often, the second choice comes back around one way or another. If Flourishing is the focus, balance will become a topic after a while, because nothing can grow without limits. If Balance is the focus, then flourishing will ultimately follow.
I will write more in a new blog post on how intakes work and why I choose to work with them. If you are wondering if I can help you, just ask me for a free intake. If you have another question for me send me an email or talk to me through the socials by leave a comment on my Blog, Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.