During our life we all form bonds continuously. Bonds with people, places and even companies and products. Most of these bonds are healthy ones, as we feel loved in return by our spouses, enjoy our homes, our job and our favorite foods. Some of these bonds are not and that is what this blog post is about.
Analyzing unhealthy bonds
I can easily see the bonds that are between people and use this in my work as a Psychic to help heal and balance bonds. For me those bonds are visible in the energy field and based on where they exists (head to head, heart to heart, belly area etc.) and how they look (strained overburdened etc.) I can see how healthy they are and what is missing/incorrect.
If you do not feel that you can check up on these bonds intuitively, looking at the results of these bonds is an easy solution to find what is going on.
Unhealthy bonds have the following consequences:
- After contact with that person, place, company or product you feel drained, guilty, upset for a long time or experience other negative emotions
- After contact with that person, place, company or product you feel physical upheaval, stomach aches, head aches or other physical complaints
- After contact with that person, place, company or product you are overly worried, anxious, remunerating or other mental complaints
Do I need to cut my unhealthy bonds?
People often worry that they have to cut all contact when a bond is unhealthy. I do not recommend doing that every time, because that way we will never learn. We are responsible for half of every bond, so it becomes toxic or unhealthy we have the opportunity to learn and grow and balance that bond in a better way.
I only recommend cutting bonds if there is a danger to your life or your well being, because you shouldn't risk that for anything or anybody. Or if you have tried to balance the bond, but it isn't working.
What can I do to achieve balance in my bonds with others?
The perfect way is of course seeing why there is an upset and solving that root issue. If you solve it on your end, the bond will balance itself out. Often people are surprised that their spouse, parent, child or friend acts differently. While it's madness to expect things to change if you do the same thing over and over, a small change can have large results. If you can't seem to find the root cause rationally tune into your intuition or ask for a reading on this issue.
Sometimes however people will also carry old bonds when the people, places, companies or products involved are no longer in their lives. Like a loyalty to an old company that went bankrupt disrupting your current job or a trauma concerning a parents disrupting your own parenting. In that case, it's smart to just 'cut the cord' and release the past. There are many cord cutting exercises online. Some focus on asking for help while others use visualizations to release those bonds.
I personally choose a method that fits me and the occasion. I have cut cords by writing letters and then burning them. I have asked Archangel Michael to cut some cords for me. I have done many visualizations to cut cords and urge people to find what works for them or ask me for an exercise that they can use.
Want to know more about Energetic Bonds and do some cord cutting with me? Check out my Instagram Live: Energetic Bonds & Cord Cutting or try out any of the True Unity Videos on Cord Cutting like: Release General Unhealthy Bonds, Release Unhealthy Romantic Bonds, Release Unhealthy Bonds with our Parents or Release Unhealthy Friendship Bonds.
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Sometimes questions are very personal, so I won't answer them on the blog. However, the issues that I generally outline here have been asked in one form or another by clients. After all, many people want to know how much sessions they need.
How much sessions do clients need?
On average I need around 3-5 sessions when clients come with a specific problem. An example would be: fear of driving, relationship problem or career problem.
Besides giving the average is there a way to estimate how much sessions I need?
I can only give an estimate based on what I feel is right, which is usually accurate. Sometimes it's not due to circumstances that have changed during treatment (worsening due to behavior or external circumstances) or due to changes in how well the treatment is working. I try my best to give a good estimate, but sadly I'm not all knowing.
When I give an estimate I usually check the following:
- How long has the problem persisted
- How well is somebody responding to treatment
- Is the problem isolated or connected to many different layers
Why does it matter how long the problem has been around?
When a problem has persisted for a long time (10+ years) it usually takes longer to shift then something that has been around for a year or so. It has become more of a part of somebodies life and energy field and that pattern has to be broken.
I also notice that a long term problem shifting can cause a feeling of stress or imbalance when it's gone. For example, somebody living under the cloud of depression for 20 years with all the problems that entails (mood, energy, goal setting) will need some guidance when that cloud lifts.
How can you tell how well somebody is responding to treatment?
After the energy healing I will see the changes in the energy field. Sometimes people will have noticed changes themselves (feeling lighter, yawning, crying and feeling a bit dizzy), sometimes they won't, but I always see it. So I can gauge how well the session has worked.
The next time I see somebody I can see what type of changes have stuck and what type of changes haven't. I also of course discuss with them what they have noticed. Some people notice rapid changes in their behavior, physical body, emotional life and mental peace, while others will note little to no changes. Since I see the energy field again I can gauge better how much sessions they will need.
Very rarely the energy field has responded extremely well in the first few sessions, but then levels off. Sometimes this means there is another root issue to discuss and explore, sometimes it means that the issue has more roots in the physical body. Since I work on the energy field, sometimes the changes on the physical level are not enough. All treatments have their limits. I will then refer clients to somebody else.
How do you see if an issue is isolated or not?
I often see how an issue is connected, because I work on the root cause of issues. This is the reason the healing 'sticks' and you don't have to come back regularly to keep the benefits. Sometimes it's strange for people to realise their issue is connected to something that has happened when they were 6 or 12. However, when you clear it and they notice a lot of improvement, they often see the issue in a bit of a different light.
When an issue is very isolated, connected to only a few events, it's easier to solve. However sometimes an issue can be connected to so much past events or to karma that when I start resolving layers more and more pops up. It's like you caught a fish in your net, but when hauling it in, you realise it has 2 or 3 more fishes and the bounty just keeps coming. It can be great to resolve so much issues, but sometimes it's disappointing to work for a long time before finding total relief.
Often an issue is resolved completely but it was connected to another issue so there are changes there too. For example I once helped somebody release her fear of cars and driving after some serious accidents in her family. After one session she noticed she not only was happier in her car, she also felt more safe in stores and outside. This might be a connection you expect, but I also seen unexpected connections when old pains in the body or behavior rapidly disappeared. This extra benefit is wonderful, but often very unexpected.
Can I ask you for an estimate?
Sure. You can ask me before we meet for the first session by e-mail or phone or during your session.
Often I do Readings on new ventures, workshops or other ideas I was brainstorming about. So right now I do a lot of different things: workshops, courses, sessions by phone, e-mail or at the practice. I also use several different techniques. It seems I'm always adding new things and while that is very satisfying it also eats up quite a bit of time. So this month, I decided to check what I should cut from my practice.
I decided to work with the Good Witch/Bad Witch Oracle from Gillian Kemp again. I've used it for a Monthly Evaluation Reading before. It will help fine tune where I need to make changes. Sometimes you do not have a specific set of Questions for a Reading or a focus, so I will usually cast a wider net and then fine tune the Questions. When I work with clients, I usually do a General Reading first, so I can see what issues pop up. After that, we will deepen the issues so the advice becomes more specific. Readings for myself, I have more time then during a session, so some questions will probably be superfluous, but it will also give a clearer total picture.
Current state: Good Witches: Immortal Witch, The Woods Witch, Happy Witch and Water Witch. Bad Witches: The Silver Moon Witch
Overall, my practice is healthy. I enjoy the work I do, it gives me and others much happiness and a clearer view on both their emotional/subconscious as the rational/conscious. The only problem is the one most companies have at the moment: money. The Silver Moon Witch is all about creating enough money and feeling safe and secure. Sometimes I do feel like a little boat on the waves, wondering where new clients will spring from. And then, out of the blue, three people will call me. I often told people that being self-employed is not my dream, but with my calling I have no choice.
Am I spending the right amount of time on clients (aka e-mails, preparation time, phone calls)? Good Witch: Treasure Witch, Bad Witches: The Warty Witch & The Bat Witch
Ok, I know technically that I spend a little too much time on clients sometimes, but I treasure my clients. Sometimes I can spend around 3 or 4 hours answering e-mails, picking up phone calls and preparing for sessions. I definitely know that I should cut down on it some, but I am often very long winded I must admit.
I will look into several options to cut down time a bit.
Am I spending the right amount of time on brainstorming new workshops? Bad Witch: The Green Witch, Abracadrabra Witch and Good Witch: The Immortal Witch
I much enjoy giving workshops on plenty of different subjects. I love to teach, as it gives everybody the opportunity to learn and flower. I believe we are all eternal students. It does however, take quite a bit of time. I brainstorm the workshops, make my own workshop books and have to do quite a bit of promotion for them. I adjust workshops based on the groups that I will receive.
Many times people have told me that I should cut down on the amount of workshops that I give and I have done so this past year. Even so, it might free up more time if I make a dedicated change. I plan also to have more leadership as a workshop leader. I'm often also involved in the workshop if the number of participants is uneven and then it's hard to check up on all participants.
I got a lot of inspiration while working on this, so I guess I have more then enough on my plate to brainstorm with now!
Do I need to cut down the number of techniques I use: Good Witch: Happy Witch, Bad Witches: The Bat Witch and The Green Witch
I guess I already knew this, which is why I asked. I have some techniques that I rarely use and that I hardly ever advertise because I rarely use them. In the beginning when I just started I loved working with as many different techniques as possible. I tried honing my skills with different things to see what suited me and sometimes just for fun. However, business wise it can be quite a hassle to keep up with all of them and to take all my tools everywhere.
Also I have seen changes in some of the techniques I use, which is wonderful. I want to work in a deeper fashion with those techniques so it will certainly be interesting to work with them more often.
Well a lot to think about this summer and to move towards new horizons! I'm excited to implement some changes that others might not see, but are important for me!