When working with people, I often have to work with them to release the fear based perspective. Many people feel the world is dangerous, they have to work hard, nothing goes their way and they are constantly in fear of things getting worse. The global pandemic that started 2020 of course seems to be a validation that this mindset is correct. However, the more we stay in this perspective, the less we are able to find solutions, cope with our disappointments and build something better.
Purpose of fear
Fear is supposed to help us assess if something is dangerous, what the risk would be and to take a conscious decision to take that risk or not. Healthy fear can help us survive and make good choices. I am happy with that purpose of fear.
A fear based perspective however doesn't serve a healthy purpose. When we are fearful of everybody, that's living in a nightmare world. We know in our heart of hearts, that there are good people in the world. When we are always fearful of worse outcomes, we invest so much energy in worry, pain and disappointment instead of in trust, openness and bonding.
When people are in a fear based perspective, they tend to give up: "It won't work anyway", don't invest in others "everybody sucks", don't invest in themselves: "It's just a matter of time before I'm unlucky again" and generally live miserable lives.
It's natural to have to deal with fear, but wallowing in it isn't the answer.
Fear based perspective signs
Mentally, it's easy to see when we slip into fear based perspective: our mind isn't finding any good outcomes. There's a reorganization at work: we are sure we will get fired. The options of staying on or finding an even better job don't exist. Our partner is mad at us: we are sure they are going to leave us. The options of finding new understanding, solving an issue together or finding a compromise don't exist. If you hear yourself only specifying bad outcomes when you have an issue, it's clear that you are in a fear based perspective.
Another mental signal is excessive worry about things that never seem to happen. In a fear based perspective so many things can go wrong, but in the real world, good and neutral things happen all the time. If you find your worries often unfounded, it's clear that you have some fear based perspective bothering you.
Emotionally, people in fear based perspectives tend to be quite anxious. Since fear is ever present, it becomes impossible to relax. There is always something lurking in the background. Real enjoyment is also quite hard to feel or contentment, because a fear based perspective makes you feel that such a moment can only be fleeting.
Physically, you might notice a lot of muscle tensions, stress headaches and problems sleeping. The adrenaline of continuously dealing with fear can really do a number on our hormonal system and immune system.
Moving away from a fear based perspective
There are many ways of moving away from a fear based perspective, so I'm going to write a list with several things that you can practice:
- Gratitude - what's going right
- Choosing positivity
- Catching yourself when you move towards doom thinking/negavitity
- Kindness
- Finding the Helpers
- Healing family or life patterns of pain
- Healing family or life patterns of fear
- Writing affirmations
- Writing positive life stories
- Empowerment
- Solution based thinking
- Trust
- Meditations on Truth
There are many ways on moving away from fear and the more you do it, the more you can see the truth of the world: it's full of good people trying to do their best. The more you can see the truth of God: we are all his innocent children and he wants the absolute best for us.
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Dear People,
Often in our lives circumstances aren't like we want them to be. We can feel upset, insecure and unhappy when we don't see any changes happening. We might feel like we are walking the wrong path and give up prematurely or get angry and stop walking. One of the joys of Psychic Life is that you can very clearly see changes coming before they hit the material world, so it's much easier to trust what you are doing. Today I will speak a little bit about this, so you can incorporate it in your own life.
Trust in your birthright
When so much pain is present in the world, it's often hard to believe that we have a birthright as Souls, where we deserve health, well being, happiness, wealth, positivity etc. People often point me to how some 'undeserving' individuals are rich and some deserving people are really struggling.
I understand where people are coming from, clearly, because I can also see how many people are in dire straights, struggling or barely keeping it together. However, I also know exactly where I've made choices that I knew weren't in my best interests. I could sense that I was acting out of fear, out of anger, out of sabotage and of course those didn't give me the best results. I believe in free will, so I do have the opportunity to deny my birthright if I want.
Stopping that denial often means facing up where we are acting misguided, where past experiences make us feel undeserving or unloved and where we lost faith. Doing this type of healing work will help us make much better choices and helps us move forward with confidence and faith.
Proof is also in the pudding, once we've started that fragile moment of trust, we can see results come flowing in. We might stop ourselves again if we feel the results are minimal, but if we don't, we will start receiving our birthright left and right. The more the trust grows, the more rewards we will reap.
However, trusting in your birthright must go hand in hand with trusting your path.
Trust in your path
If you don't trust in your path and purpose, you will definitely make choices that remove you from your Golden Life, and move you away from your birthright. It's one thing to trust that you'll get everything you need, it's another important thing to be open to making the best choices.
I wrote a blog post before about the difference between blind faith, practicing listening and openness and making active choices to commit to your path. All of that of course still applies, but trusting in your path can be harder when you don't see results.
If you knew that you'd find you true love in the next 3 years, it's easier to be single. If you knew you'd find financial stability and a great job within the next 10 months, it's easier to deal with financial struggles in the now. Even so, when you walk your path well, you only know you will reach those goals, but not when. You might find a partner sooner or later, you might find health sooner or later, but you need to continue to move towards it. This is the hardest to do, because we like to see results. But like a plant growing under the ground in winter, there is something there, growing, changing, moving, even when you won't see it yet.
For me, I often see results 'in spirit' before they materialize in the world. So I might get encouragement from things others find silly or strange, but it helps my trust. Sometimes I dream something that comes true later, I see synchronicity in the problems of clients or in the lives of my friends and family or I just feel something is right.
The more you trust and do the work, the more your results grow. Walking your path can feel super scary, but, it's truly the best way to live. Don't hesitate to ask for help if you find it hard or book a Reading to see when results might materalize.
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Want to hear more about my Psychic Life? Ask me a question on the blog, Facebook Fan page or in the practice.