In 2018 I wrote 7 columns during the year for the Delft op Zondag newspaper to help people create a happier, healthier and more relaxed life by following my transformation plan. I've translated them from Dutch to English with small edits. I'm sharing Column number 1 which was published on April 1st 2018.
A new start
In the spring time it’s natural that the itch to tackle things starts to bug us. Nowadays it can be tough to find the necessary extra energy to get things done, because of stress, goals and expectations. For many of us, daily life can already feel like a struggle.
The next coming months I will write 7 columns as a step-by-step plan to a happier, more relaxed life, based on my work at Hart en Ziel. During sessions people not only receive knowledge, but I also help permanently change behavior. I remove old emotions, thought patterns and other blockages.
My greatest wisdom to make a great new start is not to start making plans. First you have to create the energy you need. You need to tackling time and energy wasters. Where does time go that you would rather spend differently? Do you sometimes sit behind PC, TV or phone for too long? Do you help others at the expense of yourself? Remove time wasters and you will have enough energy left to start your new life. Permanently low in your energy? Then effectively organizing your day is even more important.
Divide your new project into feasible steps. Your motivation remains high and therefore so does your energy. So don’t start project: weight loss by going to the gym five times, because starting out nobody can keep that up. Start with some information, trial lessons, better food and more sleep and then you will notice that you get used to your new rhythm faster. Increase your gym time step by step.
It makes sense that occasionally things go wrong, so allow yourself your mistakes. Reflect at the end of the day or week where your energy and attention went. If something had higher priority, and you agree with that, please be satisfied with what you have done, even if it wasn’t what you initially wanted. Have you been distracted? Choose to do something about it, forgive yourself and move on.
Heart and Soul's transformation plan
- Create enough energy by tackling time wasters
- Make a feasible step-by-step plan
- Regularly reflect on your goals and adjust your behavior or your goals
Continue on to the next step by reading Column 2.
Dear People,
Today I'm writing some EFT sentences to help release unhealthy patterns. Humans are being of habit and we often do things the same way even when they no longer suit us. We keep going to the same job, taking to the same friends and doing the same hobby's, because they are familiar and make us feel safe. However, sometimes we have changed too much or outgrown things, but find it hard to make changes that reflect that.
Another way of finding unhealthy patterns in our life, is when we keep doing something the same way, never getting the right results. We might even feel unlucky or even cursed to repeat things, but we can free ourselves.
Use these EFT sentences to work on letting go of your own unhealthy patterns.
Today I'm writing some EFT sentences to help release unhealthy patterns. Humans are being of habit and we often do things the same way even when they no longer suit us. We keep going to the same job, taking to the same friends and doing the same hobby's, because they are familiar and make us feel safe. However, sometimes we have changed too much or outgrown things, but find it hard to make changes that reflect that.
Another way of finding unhealthy patterns in our life, is when we keep doing something the same way, never getting the right results. We might even feel unlucky or even cursed to repeat things, but we can free ourselves.
Use these EFT sentences to work on letting go of your own unhealthy patterns.
Reflection
Even though I feel stuck, I'm willing to reflect on what needs to change
Even though changes make me uncomfortable, I'm willing to reflect on what needs to change
Even though I'm used to doing things this way, I'm open to finding new better ways
Even though I'm afraid I've outgrown things, I'm open to finding new better things
Even though I'm afraid I've outgrown relationships, I'm open to find new happier relationships
Even though I'm worried about changing, I happily change every day
Unhealthy pattern
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with money, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with friendships, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with family, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with love relationships, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with sex, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with my body, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I choose to change
Even though I feel guilty that I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I forgive myself completely
Even though I feel upset that I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I choose to move on
Even though changes make me uncomfortable, I'm willing to reflect on what needs to change
Even though I'm used to doing things this way, I'm open to finding new better ways
Even though I'm afraid I've outgrown things, I'm open to finding new better things
Even though I'm afraid I've outgrown relationships, I'm open to find new happier relationships
Even though I'm worried about changing, I happily change every day
Unhealthy pattern
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with money, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with friendships, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with family, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with love relationships, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with sex, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with my body, I choose to change
Even though I'm ashamed I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I choose to change
Even though I feel guilty that I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I forgive myself completely
Even though I feel upset that I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I choose to move on
Even though I feel hopeless about my unhealthy pattern with X, I trust that I can change
Even though I feel hurt that I have an unhealthy pattern with X, I let go
Even though I feel that an unhealthy pattern with X is part of my identify, I choose to transform
Even though I don't know how, I choose to build a healthy pattern
Even though I feel cursed with unhealthy pattern X, I free myself completely
New patterns
Even though I might still fall back into an unhealthy pattern, I celebrate all changes
Even though I have trouble sticking to the new pattern, I am proud of myself
Even though I feel discouraged about sticking to the new pattern, I give myself the encouragement I need
Even though I don't know who I am without unhealthy pattern X, I celebrate me
Even though I'm afraid of the new pattern, I choose to see the positive changes
Even though I fear I won't stick to the new pattern, I give myself time and effort
Even though I am worried about how others react, I want to stick to my new pattern
Even though the new pattern feels unfamiliar, I strive to make this healthy pattern a habit
Even though I might still fall back into an unhealthy pattern, I celebrate all changes
Even though I have trouble sticking to the new pattern, I am proud of myself
Even though I feel discouraged about sticking to the new pattern, I give myself the encouragement I need
Even though I don't know who I am without unhealthy pattern X, I celebrate me
Even though I'm afraid of the new pattern, I choose to see the positive changes
Even though I fear I won't stick to the new pattern, I give myself time and effort
Even though I am worried about how others react, I want to stick to my new pattern
Even though the new pattern feels unfamiliar, I strive to make this healthy pattern a habit
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