Dear People,
Guarding and respecting our boundaries should be as natural as breathing, but for most people it isn't. Some of us have been told about how we need to be kind, polite and forgiving. Some of us are afraid of confrontation and just hope others will understand where our boundaries are and respect them. However, other people can only guess at our boundaries and often will cross them (intentionally or not). So time to EFT on how to keep your boundaries healthy and guard them in an easy way.
Acknowledging your boundaries
Even though it might make my life difficult, I acknowledge I have boundaries
Even though I (might) dislike where my boundaries are, I respect my own boundaries
Even though I feel like I need to toughen up, I respect own my boundaries
Even though I feel childish, I respect my own boundaries
Even though I don't want to deal with them, I acknowledge my own boundaries
Even though I want to be different/easy going, I know everybody has boundaries
Even though I don't want to listen to my body, I know my body has boundaries
Even though I don't want to listen to my heart, I know my heart has boundaries
Even though I don't want to listen to myself, I know I have boundaries
Guarding your boundaries
Even though I don't want conflict, I guard my boundaries
Even though I don't want to be rude, I guard my boundaries
Even though I don't want to be unkind, I guard my boundaries
Even though I don't want to be angry, I guard my boundaries
Even though I don't want to escalate, I guard my boundaries
Even though I want somebody else to take the job, I know it's my job to guard my boundaries
Even though I have to practice guarding my boundaries, I know it gets easier and easier
Even though I want to hide/run away, I choose to guard my boundaries
Even though I rather have other people support me and my boundaries, I know I have to support myself and my boundaries
Other people
Even though people might not like my boundaries, it's my right to have them
Even though people might not understand my boundaries, it's my right to have them
Even though people might try to cross my boundaries, I choose to guard them
Even though people might undermine my boundaries, I choose to guard them
Even though people might try to guilt trip me, I know my life/time/energy is mine
Having trouble guarding your boundaries or dealing with the emotional fallout? Post a message on the blog, Facebook Fan Page or e-mail me for a personalized EFT sentence!
Guarding and respecting our boundaries should be as natural as breathing, but for most people it isn't. Some of us have been told about how we need to be kind, polite and forgiving. Some of us are afraid of confrontation and just hope others will understand where our boundaries are and respect them. However, other people can only guess at our boundaries and often will cross them (intentionally or not). So time to EFT on how to keep your boundaries healthy and guard them in an easy way.
Acknowledging your boundaries
Even though it might make my life difficult, I acknowledge I have boundaries
Even though I (might) dislike where my boundaries are, I respect my own boundaries
Even though I feel like I need to toughen up, I respect own my boundaries
Even though I feel childish, I respect my own boundaries
Even though I don't want to deal with them, I acknowledge my own boundaries
Even though I want to be different/easy going, I know everybody has boundaries
Even though I don't want to listen to my body, I know my body has boundaries
Even though I don't want to listen to my heart, I know my heart has boundaries
Even though I don't want to listen to myself, I know I have boundaries
Guarding your boundaries
Even though I don't want conflict, I guard my boundaries
Even though I don't want to be rude, I guard my boundaries
Even though I don't want to be unkind, I guard my boundaries
Even though I don't want to be angry, I guard my boundaries
Even though I don't want to escalate, I guard my boundaries
Even though I want somebody else to take the job, I know it's my job to guard my boundaries
Even though I have to practice guarding my boundaries, I know it gets easier and easier
Even though I want to hide/run away, I choose to guard my boundaries
Even though I rather have other people support me and my boundaries, I know I have to support myself and my boundaries
Other people
Even though people might not like my boundaries, it's my right to have them
Even though people might not understand my boundaries, it's my right to have them
Even though people might try to cross my boundaries, I choose to guard them
Even though people might undermine my boundaries, I choose to guard them
Even though people might try to guilt trip me, I know my life/time/energy is mine
Having trouble guarding your boundaries or dealing with the emotional fallout? Post a message on the blog, Facebook Fan Page or e-mail me for a personalized EFT sentence!
We all have goals in our lives that we want to achieve, but quite often, we have some obstacles in the way. Our attitude is very important and yet it's often the most difficult thing to change. We want what we want and we want it now! Yet, today, I'm writing on how to stay in a positive flow if you change this thought pattern, because the results are really worthwhile. You might not reach your goals sooner, but you will reach them in a healthier way.
Steamroller attitude
A lot of time steamroller attitude is hidden under positive words like: disciplined, high achiever, dedicated, driven and not acknowledged as a problem. When people have inherited this attitude from their parents or when it's expected of them from society, their bosses or spouses it can be even harder to break free. Often it's considered necessary for promotions, but it isn't.
We do talk about steam rolling other people: talking over them and interjecting your own sentiment. The attitude that I'm talking about when working towards our goals and dealing with obstacles is the same type of attitude, only instead of rolling over other people, you are doing it to yourself, in the name of achieving your goal.
Steam roller attitude is:
- normal healthy arguments are rejected
- normal healthy boundaries are crossed
- feelings are repressed
- warnings are ignored
So what happens? Usually people get physical complaints, problems with spouses, family or friends, starting to feel emotionally blank and lose touch with their inner power. The goal gets achieved and for some people this is good enough. However, it does usually have painful consequences, which sometimes are only found out long after the fact. In the end, we will pay the price.
Examples:
- Finishing a project at work or at school at the expense of your body (skip on sleep and/or food and feel grumpy and overly tired)
- Being so focused on your career at the expense of your social life (stressed, not spending time with others, not able to build or support meaningful relationships etc.)
- Trying to lose weight in dangerous ways
- Doing fertility treatments when your body or relationship isn't ready for them
Spiritual Attitude
Spiritual attitude to reaching goals means you achieve the goal in way that is healthy for you and that helps you get support from the spiritual and material world. To do so, it means you check regularly if you are aren't too focused on your goal and miss signals or discarded warnings. It also mean that you might redefine your goal, set it aside for another goal or even choose to let it go entirely.
Spiritual attitude means:
Examples:
So whenever you want to achieve something, carefully check on if you are doing it the right way, as you can cherish the fruits of your labors in a happier and healthier way. You also check if it's really something you want to achieve or if you rather change paths.
Want to talk about achieving your goals? Talk to me in the practice, write a comment on this blog or on the Facebook Fan Page or shoot me an e-mail.
Spiritual attitude to reaching goals means you achieve the goal in way that is healthy for you and that helps you get support from the spiritual and material world. To do so, it means you check regularly if you are aren't too focused on your goal and miss signals or discarded warnings. It also mean that you might redefine your goal, set it aside for another goal or even choose to let it go entirely.
Spiritual attitude means:
- You listen. To your own feelings, to people around you, to experts, to your intuition etc. and of course you check if your goal is right for you
- You acknowledge the messages in the right way - what do you need to change, transform, release or let go.
- You check what you can do to have your network help you
- You check if the goal still serves your needs
- You check if you notice that it's the right time for that goal
- You check what you can do to make achieving the goal easier
Examples:
- You ask for help with cooking or buy healthy food (salads etc.), take care of your sleep, might ask to extend a deadline while working on your project or ask a colleague for help
- You tell people you want to achieve a promotion or get a new job, ask for them to help you find opportunities, give focus and attention to your wishes and make sure your life is healthy and balanced
- You work on listening to your body and find out what works for you and what doesn't, losing weight by making healthy decisions, healthy changes and building healthy patterns step by step. You forgive yourself when you make mistakes, accept that you aren't perfect, refocus when needed and celebrate your successes
- Doing fertility treatments when your body and relationship is ready for it, meaning you tackle this as team with your partner, support each other and be able to do balance your life while going through this hardship
So whenever you want to achieve something, carefully check on if you are doing it the right way, as you can cherish the fruits of your labors in a happier and healthier way. You also check if it's really something you want to achieve or if you rather change paths.
Want to talk about achieving your goals? Talk to me in the practice, write a comment on this blog or on the Facebook Fan Page or shoot me an e-mail.