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Dear People,

From all solutions that are available to us when we struggle, waiting is one of the hardest to do. In our society a premium is placed on being busy, doing things and active participation. However, the passive and reflective side of us can bring solutions as well.

Reflective waiting vs fretting
If you are boiling water for tea, you have to wait until it's done before you can make it. A common saying is: a watched pot never boils. This isn't true of course, but the idea is very sound. If we keep on fretting and watching the pot it is going to take ages and it's going to drain our energy and mood.

Sometimes we need to wait for the other person, we need to take time for forces behind the scenes to get things moving and fretting, watching and micromanaging isn't going to have it done faster.

Reflective waiting is knowing the pot is on the stove, that things are moving forward and that sometimes you will see little signs to see the situation is moving forward. Keep an eye out for those little changes, in yourself, in the environment, in others to help you with waiting and to adjust course whenever necessary. Learn to wait patiently and gracefully and your life will improve.

Waiting vs procrastination
Sometimes we say we are waiting, but in fact, we aren't, we are procrastinating. If you are waiting, that means you have done the appropriate action and you need to wait to hear from the other side (like for your pot to boil). Often we don't really want to do the appropriate action, so we are saying we are waiting: for the time to do something, for a better day, for tomorrow etc. etc.

So, how do you know you are not really waiting? When you ask yourself what you are waiting for and it isn't something on the other side, but it is something you need to do, you are procrastinating.

There is no day like today! Future you will be thankful that you started the work.

Waiting vs Delaying
Sometimes when we need to make a decision, it's hard for us. A lot can be riding on it or it's hard to get in touch with what you really want or need. So we can take the time to wait a little bit, see how we feel, see what happens etc. This helps us out so we don't take impulsive action that backfires. The difference between taking a little time and delaying is when we have exhausted our reflective time, exhausted our analyzing, talked about it with others and still aren't ready to take action.

If nothing is moving anymore, because you aren't moving, then you are delaying. When we have unfinished business from weeks or months ago, this will sap our energy. To stay connected to the flow, sometimes it's just time to experience and see what results it will bring.

Good things come to people who wait (after they did what they needed to do). Want to share your story with waiting? Post it on the blog, Facebook Fan Page or talk to me in the practice.