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Dear People,

Many people believe that the hardest part of my work is that I deal with heavy emotional issues with clients. Since they feel how difficult their sessions can be, they often wonder how I deal with it on a daily basis. While I do answer heavy questions or have to help heal difficult physical, emotional or mental issues, I have a very good self care routine so this certainly isn't the hardest part for me. So let me tell you about what I encounter and what my self care routine is.

Client issues
I have known a lot of Tarot Readers and Psychics who get clients who are just curious or who are looking for some advice on smaller issues. While I do get smaller questions sometimes and I definitely do not mind helping people who are just curious about their future, I tend to attract people who need more help. I believe this is because I consider my healing gift the important one and the Psychic gift secondary. I believe I attract people who really need me and whose life I touch in often very profound ways.

Examples of real issues in my practice:

• Heavy physical issues like cancer and ALS
• Heavy mental issues like depression, schizophrenia and autism
• Heavy emotional issues like sexual abuse and starting IVF treatments
• Heavy decisions like ending a relationship or not, emigrating or not and changing careers

Step 1 in Self Care: Responsibility
The absolute first thing I needed to learn was that while I can help people heal, I can help people confront truth and I can help people make better choices, but it's all up to them in the end. I can tell them the truth in 100 different ways - if they don't want to listen, they won't. I can offer free healing sessions, but if they don't want to take them, they won't.

So the number one rule for me is that I know I'm only responsible for what I do during sessions, I'm not responsible for the life of my clients, I'm not responsible for their choices, I'm not responsible for them.

This effectively means that I keep reminding myself that my clients keep their agency, their power, and I have none in their lives. That they need to make their own mistakes, carve their own path and live their own lives.

It doesn't mean I'm not human. I'm very sad to see people who I care about make mistakes. I'm very sad when consequences of choices are brutal and have lasting effects. I however, don't feel guilty. I don't second guess what I could have/should have said or done. I don't worry about how I should upgrade myself to do better in the future. I leave the responsibility where it belongs: with the client.

Step 2 in Self Care: Release
Sessions can become very emotional, very raw and very upsetting. It's never nice to see a person hurting and I would be made of stone of it didn't effect me. However, I can't allow it to effect me for longer then a few minutes. If it did, I couldn't do my job, I'd be crying next to you instead of helping you release it. I'd be upset from the previous session instead of giving you my best.

I always tell my clients who ask how I can release so easily that I'm actually a trash can without a bottom. That means I do feel the energy, I do feel the emotions, but I allow them to pass through me immediately. No bottom means I keep nothing in me and nothing that isn't mine sticks to me.

I also usually have 10 minutes between sessions, so if I do notice I'm a bit upset still or that I'm not back in my own power, not centered or not grounded, I do some extra release for myself. It's very rare that it's necessary, but I'm not yet a perfect trash can. When I don't have that time when a particularly heavy session runs late, I sometimes ask clients if I can have a minute or two to do that and of course allow their session to run a little later too. I also regularly shower after my last session when I'm back home if it was a particularly heavy one.

Step 3 in Self Care: Gratitude
I'm very grateful for the work I am able to do. I'm very grateful for the positive changes I'm helping into being in people's lives and in the world. I often remind myself that my work is fulfilling and making a difference. After sessions I'm often energetic, happy and balanced. Working with so much energy is right for me.

So yes, I do take time to thank my clients, in my mind, heart and spirit. Sometimes when my calendar is full and I'm a bit swamped, I spend time thanking each of the clients who have sessions with me booked. I know I'm going to be glad to see them, glad that they are making positive changes.

When my calendar is empty, I focus on being open for new things, sometimes that means new clients, sometimes that means new workshops, new brainstorms, new ideas, sometimes that means a day off, some work at home, some social time, some relaxing etc.

So no, the emotional side of my work isn't the hardest part by a mile. I don't struggle with it as my routine is pretty natural by now as I've been doing this work for 7 years now. I'm glad that I don't face burnout, which I've seen a lot of people go through. I'd be sure to write about what really is the hardest part of my work in an article soon. I'm sure it will be funny to some of you!

Don't hesitate to ask me questions about my work in the practice, on the blog, Facebook Fan Page or by e-mail. I'm always happy to talk.