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Dear people,

Healing is available for everybody. Yet it's a rare week when I don't notice some form of communication where the expectation is clear: there will not be healing. Sometimes when I read the comments of a news story about a rape survivor, sometimes I speak to somebody who is deeply grieving or when I have an intake with somebody who is looking for help, but who has given up or lost faith. Today I'm writing about why healing is available for everybody and why that's so important to remember.

Different faces of Healing

Lucky for us, we often heal without thinking about it. It's not instantaneous, but we don't consciously need to work for it. A cut in our finger, a blister on our foot or pimple in our face. A bit of heart break, a disappointment or a night of less sleep is often also quickly forgotten. Our bodies,  hearts and minds want to heal and we take that for granted. 

Yet sometimes healing is a journey - it takes time and effort to reach our destination. When people can not imagine the destination they think healing is not possible. Sometimes they  want to go back in time. A grieving person won't get their loved one back. A rape that has happened can't be stopped. So they tell me that nothing can be done - there is nothing to heal. When this happens, it means that we are stuck in the past instead of finding a way to move forward.

Healing has many faces. It can be acceptance. It can be new love or new life. It can be inner peace. It can be strength. It can be wholeness. It can be helpfulness. It can be strength. It can be wisdom. But it will never be the exact same way as before. If that was true, it wouldn't be healing, as that would mean we have learned nothing, gained nothing and just rewound time. 

Sabotage in Healing

Sometimes people swear they want to heal, but they've seen a lot of different people and they claim nothing works. With our bodies inner natural healing power, it's very unlikely that nothing would ever work. It often means that our hearts or our minds are sabotaging the healing. Like somebody who tells  you they want to quit smoking with a cigarette in their mouth. 

It's really hard to deal with self-sabotage in Healing. Most of the sabotage is subconscious, so people really feel like they are working hard and trying hard. They are often angry and upset, because nothing they are doing seems to be working. It's like an invisible hand is ruining their work time and time again. Sometimes they feel they have done enough and are unwilling to see where their energy, participation and willingness is needed.

If you notice this happening in your life - remember that healing is always possible. You just need to work on the self sabotage to start the healing process. I made a True Unity video to help people heal self sabotage. If you do notice healing but frequent set backs or mixed results, definitely take a closer look into self sabotage.

Time needed for healing

I  always say that most people would like to be healed yesterday. However, in our world healing takes time. While it's sometimes possible to have a Celestial Speedup all healing takes time. We can't rush our body, mind or heart. I understand that people sometimes wish to flash forward, but for true healing changes need to be made in a healthy way.

If your healing is a time issue, give your body,  heart or mind some grace. While it's wonderful to instantly heal trauma, it's just not always possible. One of my longest personal healing was around 15 years, but the radioactive iodine treatment I did had a large effect on my body. I gained a lot of wisdom on that healing journey and I'm grateful that the issue is healed now. I'm working on deeper healing as I'd like to be medication free.

With longer healing journey's it's often discouraging to see very little results, but you should see some. I did notice a more balanced thyroid year after year and the amount of side effects became less and less. So while I wasn't healed or within normal blood values, I was healing. If you see no results with time, there is definitely self sabotage going on. If you so slow results, be sure to check if there is something extra you can do, but if not, try to be patient and accept the time needed for your healing.

I regularly have to tell clients that they need to wait until the healing energy has done it's work. While I do after care at 6 weeks, I've seen full healing occur 9 months later. The energy was obviously still running. Sometimes people do need a second session, because the healing uncovered a deeper problem or because it wasn't possible to do a complete healing in 1 session. There is only so much change we can handle - no matter how much healing we desire.

Keeping a Healing Mindset

When we believe healing is possible we keep searching, trying new things and listening to our bodies. We are focused on self love and self care. We are mindful of our new boundaries until we are fully healed. If we believe healing is not possible we can sink into depression or despair, make self sabotaging choices and often do things that are wrong for our bodies, heart and minds.

It's hard sometimes to keep a healing mindset, so don't be discouraged if you lost it for a while. Get yourself back on track and forgive forgive forgive. Forgiveness is a great healing tool and will often lead you towards more wisdom and better outcomes. 

Exercise: Available Healing

• Take around 15-20 minutes for this exercise
• Grab a pen/pencil and a piece of paper
• Write down the answers to the following questions intuitively.  
• The percentage of healing available to me is:
• The percentage of self sabotage I'm dealing with is:
• The amount of time I need to heal this issue is:
• The direction I need to take my healing into is:
• Take some time to reflect on your answers. 
• If you aren't happy about the amount of healing available or the time needed, invest in more support or a Celestial speedup
• If you aren't happy with the amount of self sabotage, start healing there.
• Listen carefully to the direction you need to take your healing in
• Don't forget to drink a bit of water and do some grounding 

I strongly believe we can all be healed. That's why I write so many exercises on my blog, make healing video's and do live sessions. And of course work with clients in my practice. If you want to talk more about healing or ask what's possible for you, you can email me, post a comment here on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram. 

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

Dear people,

Parenting should be rewarding, fun and beautiful. Sadly, often we are forced to own up to our own trauma, our own limitations and our own flaws. So it's no surprise that I often help stressed out parents or kids. I already have many resources to help parents out (for example the True Unity Video's around parenthood), but today I'm going to write about reframing parenting difficulties. Why it works and most common problems to reframe. If you like the technique of reframing, you can also check out Reframing Confrontations and Reframing Job Hunting.

Why reframing helps in parenting

How we feel about things greatly influences our behavior. With reframing we can change our outlook, improve our mindset, create more patience and tackle the real problem. I often hear parents say things that aren't true, but feel true nonetheless. Things like: "My child won't sleep", My children don't listen", "My child is difficult". 

One of the things I always say about parenting is: there are no difficult children. There is only difficult parenting. This is a massively important reframe, because it brings your child back to innocence and you back in focus on the problem: the parenting. If you feel your child is being difficult, you are more likely to respond with impatience, anger, nasty words etc. When you feel parenting is being difficult, you are more likely to respond with grace, forgiveness and problem solving. 

Reframing sleep

Wouldn't it be great if we could control our kids sleep? Young, old, it doesn't matter. Just a button we could press, and ta-da the kid is asleep. And we are able to get things done - because the child is sleeping! Sadly, there is no such button. And when we look closely, we realize we don't even have one for ourselves! How many times have we woken up when we wanted to sleep? Tried unsuccessfully to fall asleep for a few hours? 

So what we need to do is not "get the child to sleep", because that implies control, conflict, power struggle and frustration on both sides. It also places unfair expectations on parents and children! What we instead need to do is facilitate sleep. Meaning we give environment we need for sleep and then we are just present with our children and notice what happens. 

For baby's that means clean diaper, fed, good temperature and no discomfort. And then we just give them space to fall asleep. Maybe that means contact napping, maybe that means rocking a bit, maybe that means laying them down in the crib. Swaddling, sleep sack, white noise machine, heartbeat toy - there are so many options, because some baby's sleep easy and some don't. You figure it out as you go - what is needed for good sleep and adjust accordingly.

With older children that means a solid bed time routine, but sometimes also an extra 20 mins to talk about what's bothering them so they can fall asleep. Or giving them space in your bed at night when they had a nightmare. Or bringing in a nightlight.

When sleep is a problem and we are tired, it often *feels* like the child is just being stubborn and doesn't want to sleep. But we all need to sleep. Our bodies all want to sleep. So when sleep doesn't happen - something is wrong and needs to be addressed. Reframing it as: 'child can't sleep' means we know everybody is trying.  

Reframing listening

Probably the most heard of complaint from parents and children! Also, from adults to adults, I think. How often do we complain we don't feel heard or listened to? Tallying that up during the day might shock you. Yet if we look closely, we need to see if our complaint is it's really about listening. Most of the time, what parents really mean is that they aren't being obeyed. 

If it's truly a problem of listening (which it can be), make sure to have ears and nose checked and find out if your child is not zoned out (for example: autism, hyper focus, ADHD or epilepsy). But if what you really mean is obey - it's time to focus on what that means. 

Reframing problems with listening to: "my child doesn't obey me" means that we have to take a look at how we handle authority in our parenting. Some reflection questions:

• Are we asking them for something they can give? No for example won't work before a child is 1 year old, so don't expect that to be obeyed until they can understand what you mean. Check if what you are asking for is developmentally appropriate. 
• Do we give our children too many chances so that our requests are unclear and our children don't know when to obey. Do they know when we are being serious and when we aren't? 
• Are we asking our children to obey us when obeying is very hard for them? Do we need to institute timers or work on transitions?
• Are we expecting 100% obedience even when our children don't know why something is important? Do we need to start looking for buy-in for older children and compromise with them?

There are many reasons why children don't obey. Sometimes they are too young. Sometimes they are learning and pushing boundaries. Sometimes they have other difficulties keeping them from doing what you want. In all cases: we as parents need to figure it out. 

Sometimes disobedience can trigger a lot in the parent. Maybe because you were treated in a horrible way when you didn't obey, so you don't have a healthy frame for how to deal with disobedience. Maybe you feel disrespected or unheard. Parenting is bound to bring up childhood trauma. So take some time to heal  yourself before dealing with authority/obedience issues and you might notice that some things have cleared up as if by magic. 

Reframing difficult children

There is definitely difficult parenting. There are so many ways parenting can be difficult. But when we label a child difficult, we don't give space to who they are, instead making sure that they are prone to act in ways we don't want them to act. I've read a study that split a group in A and B children for the school year. The parents incorrectly assumed the A-group were the smart kids and the B-group were not and treated their children that way. Researchers were shocked that the children actually fell into those roles when they tested them a year later. With the A group being the top half in tests scores and the B group  being the bottom half. A year ago they had divided them by alternating students based on highest test scores hoping to form 2 equal smartness groups.

If you notice yourself labeling, move from the child towards the action. Your child is not selfish -  that was a selfish action. Your child is not stubborn -  your child acted in a stubborn way. We are used to changing  actions - offering alternatives, talking through scenario's, asking questions etc. It always helps to see where we are supporting the trait we want to see. If you want your child to show kindness, generosity, wisdom, self regulation etc. etc. when and how do you practice that? When do you set the example?

Parenting can be difficult in so many ways:

• Our child's behavior triggers us
• Our child's behavior mirrors our flaws
• Childhood wounds keep us from being the parent we want to be
• Physical/Mental/Emotional problems with our child
• Physical/Mental/Emotional problems with ourselves 
• Household stress (financial, absent partner etc.)

Parenting is a marathon not a sprint. Give yourself some grace when you can't be the parent you want to be or you struggle with a particularly though parenting situation. I'd love to write more about this in the future. If you have some issues you'd like to hear more about, you can email me, post a comment here on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram. If you want to heal your parenting struggles with me, ask me for a free intake!

Dear people,

We all deal with resistance every single day. We all have different things that we resist. Maybe it's coming out of bed, maybe it's doing your dishes, maybe it's choosing the better food option, maybe it's trying for another job etc. etc. It's normal to feel some resistance, but sometimes people struggle with large resistance rooted in trauma, past lives, family karma or other chronic issues. If we don't make a commitment to solve it, the resistance will lead to self-sabotage, procrastination and frustration. So today, let's talk about healing resistance. 

Reducing Daily Resistance

We all have things we dislike, so it's natural to be resistant to doing them. Since everybody is different, we all resist different things. The end result of resistance is easily spotted: the task doesn't get done. This type of small resistance can be easily solved by rewards or improving the task. 

I always think it's funny that we know rewards work as positive reinforcement, but most adults don't reward themselves. Whatever the task that you usually resist is, it's a good idea to reward yourself. Make sure however that the reward isn't a self sabotaging one. For example: don't reward a daily task with food if you don't want to gain weight. It's even better if you can reward yourself with things you want to add into your routine. So if you want to be more mindful, you can reward yourself with a 5 minute meditation, a 15 minute break or a gratitude exercise.

Another good way to reduce daily resistance is to make the tasks that you are resisting more fun. A lot of us don't like doing the daily grind of housework, but adding in music, your favorite audio book or some TV is a great way to get yourself happier while doing your task. It might not be as efficient, but it does get done! 

Acknowledging Deeper Resistance

One of the main reasons deeper resistance doesn't get resolved is because people don't acknowledge it. They will only look at the surface: I'm saying that I want to quite smoking, lose weight, clean up my attic, find a new partner, so that must mean I'm working towards it. Yet, when we take the time to reflect, we'd see that our behavior doesn't line up with our talk. 

Sometimes the resistance is in the subconscious so that people seem to have really good reasons on why they aren't making progress. They were busy, life got in the way, they were stressed etc. etc. Yet, examining those reasons often shows that they are just excuses. If we really wanted, we could have taken steps forward.

So it's a good idea to reflect regularly on if you are meeting your goals or not. By seeing why you aren't moving forward you can find out what type of resistance you are experiencing and heal it. It pays off to regularly check out what or who you are resisting. I always double check when I have to reschedule a task to see if I'm procrastinating, if I prioritized correctly and if I notice any resistance.

Healing Deeper Resistance

Once we know deeper resistance is there, it's time to heal it. It's important to figure out where the resistance is coming from and to step into willingness. Besides this exercise, you can also use the True Unity Video: Releasing Resistance or search my Channel for videos to heal specific resistance types like Fear of the Next Step, Fear of Rejection, Procrastination and others.

Exercise: Healing Resistance

• Take around 15-20 minutes for this exercise
• Grab a pen/pencil and a piece of paper
• Write down all your resistance thoughts and thought patterns
• If you have trouble accessing them use prompts like: I resist doing X, because, I'm afraid to do X, because, I won't do X, because or I feel resistance, because
• Once you have all resistance written down, take some time to feel it in your body and resonate with the parts of you who are angry, resentful, frustrated, fearful etc.
• Ask for help from God, Higher Power, the Universe etc. to come to a state of willingness / surrender
• Ask to have all parts integrated so your resistance disappears and you feel wholly committed
• Test your commitment by write down what you want to do and setting an alarm to reflect on if it happened
• Repeat this exercise as much as you want to discover new sources of resistance.
• Don't forget to drink a bit of water and do some grounding 

If you want to share your experience with resistance or my exercises, you can email me, post a comment here on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram. If you want to heal your resistance with me, ask me for a free intake!

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

Dear People,

I always do an intake to discuss which healing focus I would recommend. A focus is always positive: it's where we want to go and what energy we'd like to see. Sometimes it's very clear what the focus should be, but sometimes I offer multiple options. Today I want to talk about how I choose a healing focus and why I sometimes offer choices.

Broad vs narrow focus

There is no good or bad, but since a session has a healing limit, it's interesting to talk about what difference a healing focus can make. A lot of people think that the time limit is what defines how much can be healed, but the actual limits is how much my clients energy system can handle. So what does it mean to choose a broad or a narrow focus? 

I will be using an example to highlight the benefits and drawbacks. 

For example: a client comes to me for a physical problem. Underlying the problem where some old child hood patterns, so we could choose Inner Child as a focus, to heal those and expect physical relief, more energy, more creativity and passion and a bit of wonder. During the session, other Inner Child wounds might pop up, allowing for other area's of her life to also be healed. Since this focus is broader than only the problem, that means that were have a wider range of results.

We could also have chosen a focus based on the problem only, like for example "Healed Problem". We might have found other underlying causes if those existed besides the childhood patterns, but we wouldn't have had extra results. So in this case, the focus is more narrow, the results are more narrow, but, it's likelier we would clear the problem in one session if healing only the childhood problems wasn't enough to change the energy sufficiently.

The broader the focus is, the more likely it is you'd get additional benefits, but also the likelier it is that we can't heal deeply enough to solve the problem completely. Sometimes a problem is just tied to one thing only, but sometimes it's a web of different issues that all need to be healed.

Based on our intake, I tend to choose a focus that has a large chance (70% and up) to resolve the initial problem people asked me to help heal. That means it's rare for me to need a second session. Sometimes I do in case of additional resistance popping up, sometimes our session got too broad anyway during the healing (when painful things pop up I won't shy away from healing them, even if we didn't discuss it in the intake) and even more rarely sometimes the energy body of the client can't handle too much healing at once.

Let me define your focus

A lot of times people want to tell me what to heal, but we don't always know what's really the underlying cause or causes. I use my gifts to find out what they are. Sometimes they resonate a lot with people during the intake, sometimes they are surprised.

 
Surprises tend to come when the main issue is in a past life, family pattern or subconscious behavior. Sometimes that means people have already healed on the  mental or emotional levels and are stuck in deeper layers, sometimes it means that they just aren't aware of what also is influencing their behavior.

So don't worry if you don't know if you need a Healing or a Reading or if you don't know how to resolve things. That's my job. And why I schedule time to discuss things with you during an intake. I prepare all my intakes so I can listen to what's going on and notice how your energy field is behaving.

Why there is sometimes a choice

Problems can almost always be solved in different ways. I tend to choose the broadest focus that still has high likelihood to have additional benefits, but sometimes I can see two clear ways forward. For example, I had a client who was interested in building her own business. 

One focus would be: flourishing <business name>, in which case the expected results would be more clients, more money and more joy. It would focus on blockage moving forward, choices to be made in the near future and how to navigate the business for the coming months. 

However, this client was also a bit of a workaholic and there were some issues with balancing work load, making sure healthy boundaries were set and some other more personal issues. So the other focus could be: balance. In which case, the expected results would be: better work/life balance, better health and more joy. It would focus mainly on personal growth and how to be the best business owner to yourself and your clients. This would in turn, also lead to more clients and more money, but slower compared to the first path.

Neither focus would be wrong, but the expected results would differ, due to where we'd put the emphasis on healing. Would it be based on growing the business or growing yourself. Would be it based on success or based on balance. It's up to the client what is the right path forward, but often, the second choice comes back around one way or another. If Flourishing is the focus, balance will become a topic after a while, because nothing can grow without limits. If Balance is the focus, then flourishing will ultimately follow.

I will write more in a new blog post on how intakes work and why I choose to work with them. If you are wondering if I can help you, just ask me for a free intake. If you have another question for me send me an email or talk to me through the socials by leave a comment on my Blog, Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.

Dear people,

The spiral is a wonderful healing tool to work with, both in what we can accomplish for ourselves, but also in what happens when things go wrong. In English, spiraling can both mean: decrease or deteriorate continuously as well as showing a continuous and dramatic increase. I've written before on using the Spiral in walking meditation, but today I want to write some more about the spiral as a healing tool.

Why a healing spiral?

Most of the time, people like their growth to be a continuous line trending upward. While I can understand why that's ideal, that's hardly realistic. That would mean that we only take steps forward and our lives continuously improve at the same rate. 

After discussing this, people often talk about how life has it's ups and downs, and then draw a line which dips now and again, but in the end rises higher and higher. That's more realistic than the always upwards trending line. Sometimes we take a step back and then 2 forward, sometimes we are stuck in a dip for a long while, but in the end, we achieve more then we had in the beginning.

What it doesn't show is how healing builds upon healing and pain builds upon pain. It's no wonder we call it 'spiraling' when we talk about mental health. When we can't stop a negative thought, it will often generate another and another and another until we hit rock bottom. Breaking that spiral is so important. At the same time, if we are healing, building positivity upon positivity, we will reach higher and higher. That often means we reach higher and higher levels of healing. Of course that means we regularly revisit earlier themes which sometimes means people mistakenly think they make no progress or fear that they are stuck in a loop.

Why use a healing spiral?

If you know that healing and growth moves into a spiral, you can use it in your healing practice to increase healing as well as speed it up. Who doesn't like speeder results? It means meeting yourself where you are at, but also increasing your own healing potential. 

You can also use spirals to get to the core of issues or to manifest things outward. Spirals are found in nature, making it easier to meditate with this symbol. Of course spirals also feature in sacred geometry. So there are many ways in which you can connect to spirals and have them help you.

Some ideas to use a spiral

Here are some ideas on how to use a spiral:

1. Meditate with a spiral object like a seashell, a snail etc.
2. Walk a spiral inwards with a reflection question
3. Walk a spiral outwards with a manifestation focus 
4. Trace or draw spirals
5. Use a piece of rope, string or a necklace to make a spiral

Exercise: Healing Spiral

• Take around 10-15 minutes for this exercise
• Choose a healing theme (for example: physical health, assertiveness, acceptance)
  
• Gently close your eyes
• Breathe in and out until you feel comfortable
• Visualize a spiral staircase standing right before you
• Your staircase is filled with light and healing
  
• Set your foot upon the first step - breathe in and out - and access the healing available
• Gently ascend upwards to the next level
• Ask for the lesson or gift at this stage of healing 
  
• Breathe in and out - and access the healing available
• Repeat until you feel you are at the highest level of healing for yourself
• Extend gratitude towards yourself
  
• Gently open your eyes, drink a bit of water and do some grounding

If you want to share your experience with healing spirals or my exercises, you can email me, post a comment here on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.

Pick and choose what works for you and affirm away (I recommend three times a day if you can manage it).

Dear People,

I recently spoke about the technique of Psychometry in my Dutch Spiritual Column and I've made a Creating Joy Video about it as well. This technique is defined in the dictionary as "divination of facts concerning an object or its owner through contact with or proximity to the object". For many people it's just considered token-reading. So let's discuss this technique for a bit today and try it out for yourself with a small exercise.

What is Psychometry?

The idea behind Psychometry is that energy from the owner will find it's way into objects. The ring you wear, your clothing, etc. etc. they all soak up your energies daily. Large items like your home, your car etc. will  also soak up your energies. So basically everything you surround yourself with is included in this energy exchange. People who are sensitive can read that energy and know things about you and your future. 

Some Psychics that work with Psychometry will ask you to have a token in your home for a few days and then bring it with you to the appointment. Flowers are very popular for that, but another popular way to do psychometry is with photos. 

Why use Psychometry?

If you are already sensitive to energy it makes a lot of sense to try to see if psychometry gives you good results. You can start by honing the skill on your own items, but doing that makes is hard to distinguish between what you already know about yourself and what you are actually sensing. 

Hopefully, you do have items in your home that belong to others. Maybe you have some second hand items, heirlooms or things you borrowed. It's of course easier to use psychometry on items from people you know as it's easier to confirm what you are receiving. I do highly recommend asking for permission if you choose to read an item belong to another living person. Everybody deserves privacy and you never know what information might come true. I know some people are confident that higher power/God/The Universe won't share what you aren't meant to know, but personally, I don't subscribe to that. 

Psychometry Exercise

• Take around 10-15 minutes for this exercise
• Select an item that you want to read 
• Gently close your eyes
• Breathe in and out until you feel comfortable and at peace
• Visualize opening your third eye and affirm that you are willing to listen to your intuition
• Touch the object that you want to read
• Register all the sounds, smells, thoughts, images etc. that come to you 
• Let go of the object
• Gently open your eyes, drink a bit of water and do some grounding 
• If needed, do some cleansing, like washing your hands
  
• Write down your impressions and check them with the owner of the object

Repeat this exercise regularly to see if this spiritual technique comes easily to you or and if you want continue working with psychometry. For some, the impressions can be too much, and than grounding and cleansing becomes very important, for others the difference between what you are imagining and what you are really intuitively receiving can be hard to distinguish and others don't receive any impressions at all.

Don't be discouraged if this isn't the technique for you, there are many spiritual techniques to help us work with our intuition and be in tune with our soul path.

If you want to share your experience with psychometry or my exercises, you can email me, post a comment here on the blog or send me a message on the Facebook Fan Page or on Instagram.

Dear people,

Of course we all like to succeed. And sometimes we feel that when we have God's/Heaven's/Higher Power's/Universes' blessing, when we're walking our soul path, that means that we'll only have success after success after success. And while, of course, I acknowledge that would be really nice, that is not my experience. We sometimes need to learn our lessons and sometimes we desire things or people that aren't right for us. So today I am talking to you about times when we are destined to fail.

Destined to fail 

When we fail, we can have two choices. We can choose to be bitter and upset. Or we can choose to trust that that wasn't the right thing for us. It's hard to accept, but maybe we were actually are needed somewhere else, be with somebody else or do something else entirely.

Example: Buying our House

When I was house hunting with my husband, that was a huge sellers market. So we decided to first sell his apartment and then only to start looking for a home for the both of us. And that meant that his apartment is sold really quick within only a couple of weeks. But also that we have spent a long time looking at houses afterwards.

When we finally found one that we both agreed on, we bid on it, but it didn't get sold to us. It was a huge bidding war. But since we only just started looking, we decided of course that it was just the start. But in the months after that, we could not really find anything that we were willing to bid on. And my husband was getting more and more nervous because due to financial reasons, the best thing to do for us was to buy a house within a certain period of the sale of his old appartment.

And finally, we saw another property that we would like to buy, so we bid on it, and we heard that it was just us and another potential buyer. And that was because COVID just started and we were in our first lockdown. And of course, everybody was saying that we were insane and that the housing market was likely to crash and we should just wait.

But we really liked the house so we decided to put an offer in. And again, our bid wasn't accepted. We had the highest bid but the couple we were bidding against actually didn't need to get a mortgage, they could pay in cash. So the sellers went with a cash offer.

So that evening, my husband was very dejected and very angry and he said, "I really thought that that was going to be our home and I am so angry. We spend months looking at houses and we still don't have one."
And I told him, "Look, we were destined to fail that wasn't our home, and if it is our home, the other buyers are going to go and drop out and we'll be called back asking if we want to still stand by our offer or not. But I told him, "That is obviously not our home."

And I asked him if he was willing to do some healing work with me so that he could let go of his anger and his disappointment and so we could move forward to the home that was ours. So I'm happy that he was willing to do that with me.

And then the next day I saw our home and I said, "Look, that's our home." And it was in the same street of the house that went into that bidding war. It's just a small street, so we were lucky to find another property for sale there within the same year. So we went to visit there and we made an offer. And we got the call a day later that the house was hours. We are very happily living there. And it really felt that it was destined to be our home.

Because we got this property almost a year later, we were able to save a lot more money and able to do a lot of renovations. And because it was during COVID lockdowns, we managed to snag somebody to actually do it for us because we could just offer him an empty house and the keys. Everything just fell into place wonderfully.

And we wouldn't have been there if we won the bidding war. We wouldn't have been there if we won the bid on the second property. So for us, the third time was the charm. 

Example from a client: miscarriage

When I was working with a client, some grief from a miscarriage came up during her session. She told me that it was devastating was it was the only time she managed to get pregnant and she had loved to be able to be a mother to a living child. 

Miscarriages are hard on the mind, body and soul for almost all people. Some people find meaning or manage their grief, while for others, it can be an open wound. Grief is always a deeply personal journey. So this example does not speak for others.

While she was able to release layers of grief she told me how much better her life had been afterwards. Something was set right in her body - as some major health issues resolved. Something was set right in her life - she recognized that her relationship wasn't right for her and that a child tethering her to that person would have been dangerous for her. She was able be thankful and extended gratitude to the soul she had felt and the experience she went through.  

Destined to fail exercise

If you look back, you might also find instances where after not getting your first pick, you found out that what you received instead was much better. It might be a second relationship, it might be that third bid on a house, it might be that third job offer or even something completely different. Staying in tune with what is right for you, allows you to find patience for the times where it seems you are living setback after setback.

• Take around 15-20 minutes for this exercise
• Make sure you are comfortable and can't be disturbed by your phone etc.
• Close your eyes 
• Take yourself back towards a time where you felt a painful failure
• Ask for help from Higher Power, God, The Universe, your Guides etc. to release any pain, guilt, self attack or other negativity to be released
• Breathe in and out slowly and fill yourself up with Inner Peace
• Ask if you have already received your better path - if you have - feel grateful
• If you haven't received it yet - ask to be filled with trust
• Gently open your eyes, drink a bit of water and do some grounding 

Dear People,

I haven't written much about the services I offer, so sometimes clients that find me through one of the services I offer are surprised what other things I do. For example clients that find me for Healings are surprised I also offer B2B Readings or that you can hire me for private events. You can find all my current services on my website, but I do receive a lot of clients by word of mouth, which usually highlights one service above the others. So this year I'm going to write some about my lesser known services. Today, I'm going to write about my coaching program! 

Why do I offer a coaching program

I have spoken before about the differences between my work and coaching, so while I do call it a coaching program, I do use my gifts. My coaching program consists of Healing/Reading sessions, short Healing Boost, support by phone or email and spiritual exercises.

Clients sometimes ask to work on several things, have several area's in their lives they want to improve or have multiple goals. That makes it hard to choose a single focus for a True Unity Healing. Sometimes clients are looking for direction and healing, so then it's difficult to choose between doing a True Unity Healing or a Psychic Reading. 

For those clients, I started a coaching program, so I can offer longer term support and create the best results. 

When to choose the program

When we are discussing what you want during a free intake, it often becomes clear that the program is also a viable option. By choosing my coaching program, clients receive support for the next 3,6 or 12 months and a mix of sessions and spiritual exercises. To give you a better idea of what the program might look like let me give you several examples.

A client who wants to know more about their romantic life (Reading), but at the same time also knows they need to work on some old relationship baggage (Healing). During a set time we can schedule Healings when old wounds get triggered, but also Readings when potential dates turn into more (or not). They also receive support by email or phone, so they can ask me short questions or discuss their experiences.  This full package ensures they feel supported and get what they need during their journey towards a healthy happy romantic relationship.

A client is starting a business, but while doing so, they have questions about where to best spend their time and energy (Reading), but at the same time, meeting potential clients brings out some personal blockages around receiving, self value and confidence (Healing). By starting a business coaching program, they can get all the support they need and regular checkups help keep them accountable.

A client is on a journey towards living a more spiritually aware life. They have questions about where or what they are being guided towards (Reading), but also want help when they are being challenged to step up (Healing) or when old thought patterns cause trouble (Healing). The program also gives them spiritual exercises to help develop their own intuitive gifts.

A client has several things they want to work on: love, career and some family obligations. By taking the coaching program instead of sessions, they can adjust their sessions to focus on what is most important at that time. Sometimes that means they have a Healing and other times a Reading is a better fit. Spiritual exercises help balance their several goals over a longer period of time.

How do you book my coaching program?

I have a free intake with you where we discuss what your program would look like. Usually we first discuss if you want to have a short program (3 months) or would like longer support. We discuss what your preferred way to connect is (by email or by phone). Then we decide what type of mix of shorter or longer sessions would work best with other obligations and what the goals of the program would be. 

All my coaching programs are tailored specifically to the needs and wants of my clients. That means you will receive a specific price quote based on what we discussed in your intake.

Benefits of my program

There are many benefits to working with the coaching program, but here are some I feel are the best:

1. Reduced cost: since we can skip several intakes a program is almost always cheaper than booking sessions separately
   
2. More accountability
3. More support
4. Specific personal spiritual exercises that you can reuse

Wondering if my coaching program is for you? Ask me for a free intake!